Food is critical to life. Just like oxygen and water, it sustains us, gives us energy, and keeps our bodies moving. But how do you choose the right food for a healthy diet ? Over the years, we've discovered that there are many factors to consider.

In this episode, Simon Hill shares his knowledge on the importance of having a healthy diet. He goes into the science of the microbiome, which keeps the body systems healthy. In particular, he shares his research on plants and their importance in food for a healthy diet. Simon shows how plants can help a person stay healthy: from reducing the risk for developing diseases to slowing down aging.

Your health is in your control. If you want to know how to eat healthier, listen to Simon's discussion on microbiomes and plants as food for a healthy diet.

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

1. Find out how you can introduce fiber-rich plants to your food for a healthy diet.

1. Discover the mechanisms of the gut and how keeping it healthy is beneficial to you.
2. Learn about how eating plants can be the key to reducing diseases and p health.

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• Learn more about food for a healthy diet with this Study on Fermented Food’s Effect on the Human Microbiome!
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Episode Highlights

About Simon Hill

• Simon lives near the beach in Bondi, Sydney.
• Australia may seem scary and dangerous. But most of the dangers are overhyped.
• Simon's partner, Tanya, also fears shark attacks despite their low probability of appearance.

The Beginnings of Simon’s Journey

• Simon’s father was a professor. So, Simon grew up with a passion for science and scientific research.
• At 15 years old, he almost lost his father to a severe heart attack. It turns out that Simon’s family has a history of cardiovascular disease.
• This experience and a lack of knowledge made him feel disempowered. He felt like cardiovascular disease is determined solely by genetics.
• Later on, Simon learned that lifestyle and environment play a more significant factor than genetics when looking at chronic diseases.

How Food Environments Affect Nutrition

• Most people’s food choices are dictated by their food environment.
• Malnutrition and food scarcity are a burden for many developing countries. As these countries develop, you can see a noticeable increase in obesity and diabetes.
• Transnational food companies prioritize profits over health. They market ultra-processed foods towards the impressionable parts of society.
• The government, then, must regulate the food market for a healthier society.
• Convenience, cost, taste, and education also affect how people manage their diets. Education is most important in learning how to eat healthily.

Food for a Healthy Diet

• The labels on commercially-available foods do not define food for a healthy diet.
• Different studies show that healthy diets follow a consistent theme regarding how much fat, fiber, and protein a person should consume.
• Various diets can reach this consistent theme and deliver optimal health.
• Plants can replace animal products and processed food for a healthy diet.
• Tune in to the full episode to hear about the health benefits of swapping calories from animal protein to plant protein!

The Gut Microbiome

• There are trillions of microbes that live within the body.
• A diversity in microbes is a sign of a healthy microbiome. It promotes a higher number of healthy bacteria and a more resilient ecosystem.
• A diet rich in fiber can promote a healthy microbiome, because the soluble component of fiber is a prebiotic and serves as food for good bacteria.
• In turn, these good bacteria produce different types of metabolites that affect the body. For example, short-chain fatty acids such as butyrate keep your gut lining intact.
• Alternatively, you’re at risk for a leaky gut if your microbiome is not diverse.

On Prebiotics vs. Probiotics

• Probiotics are live bacteria that have beneficial effects on their host. However, the bacteria and their effects are transient.
• It’s much better to focus on having a diverse fiber-rich diet first before looking into consuming probiotic supplements.
• Prebiotic substances are already in your gut. Having a good amount of them ensures that your digestive system is producing metabolites.
• Increasing your fiber intake isn’t automatically beneficial. If your gut microbiome is on the weaker side, suddenly increasing your fiber intake may cause inflammation.
• Simon recommends introducing fermented foods first to increase your microbiome diversity. Then, look at gradually increasing your fiber intake.

Dairy vs. Non-Dairy Products

• Debates surrounding dairy consumption are far more nuanced than what we think.
• The media often chooses engagement and popularity over a detailed, contextual discussion.
• Dairy isn’t an essential food group. However, there’s no problem with having a little dairy in your diet.
• Typical Western diets consume dairy products that are very high in saturated fats. In this case, it’s best to cut back on consumption.
• If you’re able to, consider the ecological footprint that comes with dairy consumption. Simon believes that this is the strongest argument to reduce or avoid dairy products.

Low-Fat vs. Full Fat

• Simon recommends low-fat when you have high levels of saturated fats.
• It’s also best to ensure that the low-fat option you’re choosing is not processed, flavored, or sweetened.

On Planetary Health

• The world as we know it is on the verge of the sixth mass extinction.
• Currently, the species extinction rate is 165 times faster than during the end of dinosaurs.
• This rapid extinction rate is a result of humanity's choices and living our lives.

How Simon Feels Radically Loved

• Simon feels radically loved by the relationships and connections he has cultivated throughout his life.
• Nature is also something that he greatly values. It deserves respect and love.
• The environmental problems we see around us are reflective of our relationships with each other. If we can learn to be loving and compassionate, we can solve climate change.

5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode

[19:40] “Most people’s food choices are dictated by the food environment… The system’s broken in many ways.”

[25:44] “We see pretty consistently across the board when you are swapping calories from animal protein for plant protein, you're getting better health outcomes: lower risk of heart attack, stroke, lower risk of certain types of cancer, etcetera.”

[29:14] “The problem is, today, we're seeing a lot of people with various conditions lose the diversity in their microbiome. And in many ways, it's a micro sort of mirror of what's happening on a macro level; we're losing biodiversity on the outside world as well at the same time.”

[41:58] “You really need to listen to your body. If you're increasing the plant diversity in your diet, and you're noticing that perhaps you are feeling bloated or feeling like you have less energy, then it might be that you're dialing it up too quickly.”

[51:28] “Compared to the mass extinction that wiped out dinosaurs 65 million years ago, we are seeing species extinction at a rate of 165 times faster. And that is absolutely a result of the way that we’re living our lives.”

About Simon

Simon Hill is a physiotherapist and nutritionist. He aims to make nutritional education understandable and available to the public. Having realized the importance of lifestyle in health, he encourages everyone to make informed decisions about picking food for a healthy diet.

Initially a physiotherapist, Simon developed an interest in nutrition as he delved into research on its impact on health. Now, he is the host of the podcast Plant Proof. Here, he gives a platform for world-renowned doctors, nutritionists, and experts to share their knowledge and advice with the public.

His rich experience and knowledge have also led him to write his new book, The Proof is in the Plants.

Curious about Simon and his passion for nutrition? You can learn more on his website.

Starting Your Day Right with a Healthy Hearty Breakfast with Elyse Kopecky

When you talk about meals, it's not uncommon to hear about breakfast being the most critical meal of your day. A healthy hearty breakfast  can give you the boost of energy you need to get going for the rest of the day. It can also sharpen your focus and increase your productivity. Of course, other than breaking fast, your morning routine can start your day right and keep it going well. This is something we learn from this episode's guest, Elyse Kopecky.

Elyse joins us to talk about the importance of mindfulness and wellness in your morning routine. In addition to knowing why you need a healthy hearty breakfast, you'll learn the importance of movement and sunlight. She also talks about her upcoming book and her experiences writing it amid the pandemic. Mother, chef, and author, Elyse gives us a wonderful peek into food, writing, and her beautiful mornings.

Tune in to discover simple ways to have better mornings!

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

1. Prepare a healthy hearty breakfast for you and your family with Elyse’s tips.
2. Get to know how Elyse Kopecky makes the most out of her day as a busy mom.
3. Peek into Elyse's bestselling books and her upcoming release, Rise and Run.

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• Pre-order Elyse's new and upcoming book, Rise and Run.
• Learn more about Elyse Kopecky and Shalane Flanagan.
• Check out Radically Loved’s retreats with Elyse Kopecky.
• Visit Elyse’s website to learn more about her and her books!
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Episode Highlights

Rise and Run In the Making

• Rise and Run is much more than just a cookbook.
• In addition to healthy hearty breakfast recipes, the book includes tips about mindfulness and wellness.
• It was inspired by and written for athletes who need a full breakfast but are often too busy.

The Challenges of Writing

• The unexpected start of the pandemic posed a significant challenge in finishing the book.
• Elyse’s pandemic writing routine included writing in the early morning during quiet hours.
• Halfway through the writing, her publisher decided to move up the deadline by six months.
• To help Elyse finish the book, her husband left his job to be a full-time stay-at-home dad. He quickly realized how challenging the role was.
• Elyse advises working moms to do the most difficult tasks first as our brains are freshest in the morning.

Getting the Recipe Right

• Elyse has an assistant who has been her recipe tester for seven years and all three cookbooks.
• In addition, she has a team of recipe testers who are beginner cooks.
• Each recipe in the book gets tested multiple times to ensure that they are easy to follow — even for beginners.

Easy-to-Make Healthy Hearty Breakfast Meal

• Superhero muffins are a staple at Elyse’s house.
• These grab-and-go meals are full of fruits, vegetables, complex carbs, and proteins — perfect for a healthy hearty breakfast, lunch, or snack.
• You can find 24 variations of superhero muffins in Rise and Run.

Getting Kids to Eat Healthily

• Elyse uses the same recipes that she’s sure her kids will eat and are familiar with.
• Her youngest is picky about food, so Elyse has had to find ways to sneak in healthy ingredients.
• For example, she makes smoothies with frozen steamed cauliflower, banana, and strawberries.

On the Book Tours

• She recently had a book tour in Chicago where she met great fans even amidst the difficulty of the pandemic.
• It’s still difficult to organize an elaborate book tour because of the COVID restrictions. So, most of their events are going to be virtual.

What’s In Store for the Rest of the Year

• Elyse is turning 40 and will be training for her first-ever marathon.
• She’s also looking forward to her book launch in New York this November, alongside celebrating 21 years of friendship with Shalane Flanagan.

Her First Marathon

• Long-distance running isn’t Elyse’s forte.
• Health, professional, and familial priorities led to her taking a break from running.
• She feels great about training for the marathon, as it keeps her accountable.

Elyse’s Writing Process

• Elyse writes first thing in the morning when her motivation is at its peak.
• She makes it a practice to stay away from noise and other distractions such as her phone to increase her focus.
• She warms up by writing the easier parts first before doing sections that take the most brainpower.
• Her youngest is still in part-time preschool, so she only has a short window for writing. Having limited time helps her increase her focus and productivity.

Food for Creativity

• A guiding principle of Run Fast, Eat Slow is the benefit of healthy fats for the brain.
• Athletes often quickly deplete their food fuel, so they need nutrient-dense and heavy meals.
• Elyse writes best with a healthy hearty breakfast with protein and good fats for brainpower.
• Little kids especially need a good, high-fat diet for their development.

Elyse’s Morning Recommendations

• Caffeine from either coffee or green tea is essential for Elyse.
• She recommends walking or running in the morning. The sunlight exposure wakes up the body.
• Even simply standing and getting sunlight can help wake you up and improve focus.

The Next Nourish + Escape Retreat

• Elyse hopes to have the next retreat in close quarters. However, she’s not too optimistic about the COVID situation.

What Makes Elyse Feel Radically Loved?

• Elyse didn't know someone could love like her youngest, Rylan.
• He makes her feel radically loved through his actions and words every day.

5 Powerful Quotes

[04:25] “The only way to have good energy the whole day is to eat a nutrient-dense, delicious nourishing breakfast."

[09:54] "Your brain is freshest in the morning so stay off social media stay off email and just get the hardest thing done first."

[22:50] "I think having a really short window time helps because it forces you to focus. You can't drag it out through the whole day."

[24:04] “A big part of the belief behind Run Fast Eat Slow is all of the healthy fats. And that is so important for brainpower. Our brain needs those good healthy fats to function optimally.”

[26:53] “Even on days, when I don't have time to run, I'll just get outside and get that sunlight because that helps wake me up so that I can focus better.”

About Elyse

Elyse Kopecky is an author, nutrition coach, and inspirational speaker, passionate about encouraging others to live and eat healthily. Alongside Olympic medallist and marathon runner Shalane Flanagan, she co-authored two New York Times bestselling cookbooks: Run Fast Eat Slow and Run Fast Cook Fast Eat Slow. Now, Elyse spreads a healthy lifestyle and good food through their upcoming book, Rise and Run, and many other works.

Elyse learned to create healthy, hearty meals for herself and her family of four. Her travels across the world introduced her to many amazing recipes to control and improve her health. Now, Elyse is happier and healthier and helps others to be the same.

Interested in getting to know more about Elyse Kopecky? Visit her website. Check out her inspiring cookbooks and follow her on Instagram.

Practice Your Psychic Ability By Trusting Your Intuition

We’ve all heard and read fairy tales, legends, and folklore. Whether passed on by word of mouth or read from worn pages of old books, we are aware of the concepts of magic and  . Witchcraft, tarot readings, rituals, and spells — people often view these practices as something to be feared and avoided. But we will learn that there is untapped power within each of us that we can use to create connections and guide us to answers.

With Alex Naranjo and Marlene Vargas, we look into the world of intuition. As founders of the House of Intuition, they share how their intuition led them to the lives they enjoy today. Amidst stereotypes and negative experiences, they use their voice to show the side of magic often ignored. 

Are you interested in unlocking your psychic ability, magic, and intuition? Listen in to Rosie, Alex, and Marlene as they share their fresh perspective on the world of magic.

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

1. Explore your psychic ability, and be confident in your power!

1. Discover what’s beyond the box with magic. Don’t let yourself be constrained.

1. Find out how intuition can lead you to answers and give you a deeper connection.

Resources

• Your Intuition Led You Here, by Alex Naranjo and Marlene Vargas
• Order your book “Your Intuition Led You Here” on presale here!
• Participate in the book's launch on October 20, 2021, in Los Angeles!
• More about the psychic Suzanne Jauchius
• Visit any of the House of Intuition’s store locations or their website!
• Connect with Rosie Acosta on Instagram and Twitter.
• Check out Rosie’s YouTube channel.
• Subscribe and leave a review on iTunes for Radically Loved.

Episode Highlights

About the House of Intuition

• The House of Intuition (HOI) came from Alex and Marlene's experimentation and their journeys alone and together.
• The book is an attempt to change people’s negative perceptions of spirituality and psychics.
• Despite being seen as taboo, Alex and Marlene want to show that this is not the case.
• The two met in 2007 during the start of the Great Recession. It was a time when people lost their businesses and much of their property.
• With their material world shaken, they wanted to look beyond religion for answers.

A Different Perspective on Magic

• Through an enlightening experience with tarot readings, Marlene realized the power of intuition. Tune in to the full episode to hear how Marlene found hope!
• Alex grew up in a religious household but felt constrained by religion. She reached beyond the limits to find what felt right for her.
• Writing the book was important to them because it gave them a voice to share people can do magic beyond the box society placed it in.
• Everything about HOI’s design and how it’s run has an intention.
• HOI wants people to learn that you don’t have to believe what everyone tells you to. Marlene shares her father’s experience with limpia (traditional Latino cleansing) and how it ended up not helping him in the full episode.

Being in a Vulnerable State

• Looking for guidance when in a bad situation can leave you vulnerable and open.
• Some readers will only tell you what you want to hear and not what you truly need to hear.
• Being vulnerable allows you to fall into a trap that often costs much but helps very little.
• Though most readers often start with good intentions, humans can fall to the temptation of taking advantage of their popularity.
• Readers should be a medium of communication, not the ones giving the message to the people.

The House of Intuition’s Purpose

• HOI wants to encourage people to be confident in their power to determine truth from lies.
• The shop is a place for authentic readers and teaching others how to tap into their power and control, especially during a reading.
• A reader wants to connect you to what you truly need. If a reading isn't resonating with you, it's better to stop and perhaps find someone else who can better connect you.
• But also consider that a message that isn't true may yet come true in the future. Marlene and Rosie share their experiences with readings that came true in the full episode.

Practicing Your Psychic Ability

• Everyone has a psychic ability that they can strengthen through use and practice.
• Alex and Marlene’s psychic nights include practicing the ability by trying to connect with your partner’s thoughts.
• One of their practices is the little psychic circle. This practice involves sitting in a circle and using breathing techniques and meditation to practice the psychic ability.
• The psychic ability is also built on confidence and knowing that you have a connection.

Exploring Your Intuition

• Manifesting your intentions into the material world can happen with asking and focusing.
• Thoughts are powerful. When you spend time cultivating what you want in your mind, you can manifest it into reality.
• You can develop your intuition to understand if something you want will serve your highest good.
• Practicing your ability helps you understand the communication spirit has with you.
• Marlene and Alex give more examples of practices to build your strength in your intuition in the full episode.

On Writing Their Book

• Society often viewed magical concepts with fear and avoidance.
• They wanted to write in a way that encourages readers to explore and strengthen their psychic ability.
• We all can use magic as a tool to use as we want to. Don't be afraid of it and what you can do with it.

5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode

[11:13] “Magic shouldn't be put in a box either. Just like religion, you shouldn't have to follow a recipe that's 300 years old when we're in modern times.”

[14:00] “You don't have to believe what everybody tells you. You have to empower yourself enough to know whether what somebody is telling you is true or not. If it resonates, great. If it doesn't, then it doesn't.”

[14:49] "Most of the time, when you go seeking for answers, you are already in a vulnerable place. Not only are you in a vulnerable place, if you're going to get guidance. . . you're not only vulnerable, you're open."

[18:35] “If the message isn't true, just put it in your back pocket. Don't chuck it yet, because it might come true in three months.”

[21:41] “Remember, your psychic ability is just a muscle that needs to be strengthened. We all have it, and it's like going to the psychic gym.”

About Marlene and Alex

Alex Naranjo and Marlene Vargas are the founders of the House of Intuition, which aims to bring hope, guidance, and power to those who feel lost and lacking. Established in 2010, the House of Intuition has only grown and become a source of knowledge for spiritual seekers. Open to all, they offer an array of magical items and services. They also hold classes and events for those who want to learn.

Alex and Marlene have also written their first book, Your Intuition Led You Here. Their own experiences and practice with magic have truly changed their lives for the better. Using their voice, they want to encourage many more to explore their spirituality just like they have.

If you want to learn more about Marlene, Alex, and the House of Intuition, you can visit their website. The House of Intuition is in Los Angeles, with more branches in locations all over the country.

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#WisdomWednesdays: Letting Go Of Relationships When Love Is No Longer Served

We value our relationships, romantic, platonic, or otherwise. So we find ways to make them work no matter the differences we have with the other person. But sometimes, some relationships are just not worth fighting for anymore. Letting go of relationships  is difficult, but it may be the right thing to do. You have to know when enough is enough. You have to find the courage to leave when love and happiness are no longer served on the table.

In this episode, Rosie and Tessa talk about leaving and letting go of relationships when there's no longer love in them. Part of feeling radically loved is loving yourself enough to know when it's time to move on. They discuss the importance of gaining awareness about the situation and your emotions. They also speak about the nuances of leaving a relationship and facing the discomfort in making that conversation.

Tune in to discover the proper actions in letting go of relationships that are no longer serving you!

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

1. Learn how to recognize when love is no longer in a relationship.
2. Understand the dynamics of a relationship as a two-way street.
3. Find out how to manage your emotions and control your reaction in confrontational conversations.

Resources

• Ōura Ring
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• Feeding the Soul (Because It's My Business) by Tabitha Brown
• The Beautiful No by Sheri Salata
• Stay updated on my upcoming book launch and 2022 international retreats by subscribing to the newsletter!
• Check out Rosie’s YouTube channel for the upcoming episodes of Wisdom Wednesday.
• We’d love to get a listener on board for #WisdomWednesdays! Send us an email at info@radicallyloved.com with the subject “Wisdom Wednesday Guest” and tell us your name, where you’re from, how you heard of the podcast, your favorite episode, and what you’d like to discuss.
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Episode Highlights

When Life Throws a Curveball

• Nature is the world’s best teacher. A bird flew into Rosie’s slider door when she was about to start a breathing practice while recording.
• Luckily, the bird is safe for now.
• The metaphor here is, sometimes, life throws us a curveball when we want to gather ourselves.

The Anxiety of Failure

• Tessa has been busy the whole week. But taking a break makes her feel anxious and fearful of failure.
• The anxiety of failure has been disrupting her sleep.
• Tessa is learning about the idea of “less is more.”
• The big lesson for her is learning to say “no” and trusting her intuition.

Tracking Your Sleep

• Rosie owns an Ōura Ring. It’s an accurate sleep readiness and activity monitor.
• How well the Ōura Ring aids you with getting quality sleep will depend on the type of person you are.
• Rosie hoped to get one for her partner Tory but seeing the data stresses him out. If acquiring the data about your sleep distresses you, it may be better not to get one.
• Contracting COVID-19 messed up Rosie’s sleep. Not getting a good night's sleep impacts her focus and overall function.
• For the past year, Rosie has been working hard to restore herself and balance her hormones. The Ōura Ring has helped Rosie be militant about her sleep.

A Placebo Effect

• Tessa wonders about the margin of error in technologies like sleep trackers. But she says that what matters is it’s working for Rosie.
• A placebo effect doesn't challenge the efficacy of something working or not working.
• Meditation can also count as an ancient technology for decreasing anxiety.

When Love is No Longer Served in a Relationship

• Rosie is reading the book Feeding the Soul by Tabitha Brown.
• The book includes a Nina Simone quote: “You’ve got to learn to leave the table when love’s no longer being served.”
• The quote is an ethos for Radically Loved.
• Part of being radically loved is loving yourself enough to know when love is no longer there.

Loving Yourself

• We’re quick to blame ourselves for things that might or do go wrong.
• Learning when to leave the table when there’s no longer any love comes back to our relationship with ourselves.
• Sheri Salata’s book The Beautiful No speaks about dealing with the narrator in your brain.
• Tell the narrator in your brain, "No, thank you—not helpful," instead of indulging a negative thought pattern.

A Relationship is a Two-Way Street

• It’s hard to discern when love is no longer present in a relationship that’s going well. It becomes a “you” problem when nothing changes with how you feel after years.
• Have a conversation with the other person and figure out why you feel love is no longer present.
• A relationship is a two-way street; if you’re not contributing to it, you’re contaminating it.
• Being in a relationship is a practice. It’s a matter of recognition and what you do with that awareness.

On Codependency

• Tessa's first long-term monogamous relationship was codependent. She felt there was potential if only the other person would do X, Y, and Z.
• It took Tessa six years to learn the lesson in that relationship.
• A lesson gets repeated until you learn it. At times, she still feels parts of that way of thinking.

Letting Go of Relationships That No Longer Serve You

• Leaving a relationship that’s not serving you anymore also applies to friendships, work, and family.
• There are nuances in letting go of relationships. Sometimes, it's necessary to leave the person; sometimes, you only need to set boundaries.
• It's a matter of mutual respect, acknowledgment, and expression of feelings.
• There's no one answer. But you'll need to know your values and what you need to do, and remain open-minded to understanding yourself and the other person.

Feeling Discomfort in Confrontations

• You don’t have to lack compassion or empathy; you only need to pay attention mindfully.
• Most of us want to hit the fast-forward button any time we feel discomfort. But sitting through the feeling becomes easier if you do it over time.
• It takes a lot of courage for people to speak their truth.
• Another nuance that comes into play in the discomfort of having the conversation is powerful emotions.
• Not everyone has strong role models in showing up with their emotions healthily when faced with this conversation.

Controlling Your Reaction

• You can’t control the other party’s reaction; what you can control is your own.
• Rosie recommends going straight to the source when you can’t control your reactivity. You have to look at how you’re living your life as a whole.
• Practice, sleep, stress, women’s hormones, and other things can compound into reactivity.
• How you express yourself would also depend on the type of dynamic you have with the other person.
• You don’t necessarily have to let out negative feelings directly to another person. You can direct it to the air, on paper, a voice note, etc.

Allowing the Cycle of Emotion to Move Through

• Allow the cycle of emotion to have its full revolution.
• Pause before you let a negative part of yourself take over.
• Still, your reaction would depend on where you’re at as a whole in your life. It’s all valid and part of the human experience.
• An emotional explosion is a build. Your mind will corroborate what the body feels.
• Rosie's bio-hack for emotional explosions: relax your shoulders and take big deep breaths. It will dissipate your emotional charge by at least 30%.

Ways To Manage Emotions on Your Own

• Write a letter, and let the rage out on paper.
• Go on a drive, and scream at the top of your lungs
• Toss an old chair or a journal in a backyard bonfire.
• The liver is associated with the emotion of anger. What you eat or drink can also affect how you’re feeling as well.
• You can also do Yoga Nidra, listen to binaural beats, or do rapid eye therapy. These practices balance the brain and bring you into the present moment.

The Body as a Miracle Conduit

• The body is a miracle conduit for moving forward.
• Reverse engineering is critical in achieving the results you want during teacher training.
• We will continue to repeat the same cycles unless we find what works for us.
• Therefore, we practice building a reservoir of awareness, wisdom, and knowledge.
• Coming from a place of acknowledgment and awareness will allow us to hold each other up as equals.

5 Powerful Quotes

[07:14] “The metaphor is that just when we want to gather ourselves, sometimes, life just throws a curveball or sometimes a bird… We can learn so much from nature.”

[19:04] “Part of being radically loved is loving yourself enough to know when love is no longer being served and having the courage or the empowerment to get up from that table and move on.”

[26:50] “We don’t just throw people away. I think that’s where the nuance comes in. Just because I’m leaving the table, doesn’t mean I’m leaving the room.”

[33:27] "Sometimes those feelings need to come out. You need to be able to be angry."

[42:02] “We’re in the school of being a human. Unless we can find what works for us and different ways to establish new neurological pathways, new patterns, new habits, we’re going to continue to repeat the same cycles over and over.”

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Manifesting through Meditation with Cassandra Bodzak

We all have something we truly desire. It might be sharing a message to the world, or creating something to be admired by generations to come. In your journey towards your goals, you’ve probably stumbled upon the term ‘manifestation’. While it does work, it requires a lot more work than people realize. Without the right manifestation methods , whatever you’re doing is most likely a lost cause.

In this episode, Cassandra Bodzak joins us to discuss her book Manifestation through Meditation. She explains why meditation is a key component of manifesting. Most importantly, she details the four steps you need to go through to manifest your dreams into reality. Cassandra also shares inspiring stories of how she did the work to attract the things she wanted.

If you want to learn the right manifestation methods, then tune in to this episode!

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1. Discover the difference between human desires and our souls’ desires.
2. Learn the four steps of manifestation through meditation.
3. Find out how Cassandra published a book through manifesting.

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Episode Highlights

Cassandra’s Book-Writing Process

• The whole writing process was fast for her, as she felt that it channeled through her. She started writing in March of 2021.
• She is an embodiment of the results of manifestation, as she manifested the book on her birthday this year.

Manifesting Her Grandmother’s Gift

• Cassandra’s grandmother, who she considers her best friend and go-to person, passed away recently.
• On her first birthday without her grandmother, Cassandra expressed that she expected a gift undeniably from her.
• She joined a meditation retreat wherein she was able to plug into source and divine energy. She took it as a gift from her grandmother.
• On that same day, she got an email from a publisher. She has been trying to pitch the book in different ways, but it just wasn’t ever right.
• Cassandra believes that her grandmother pulled some strings for her to make that happen. Because of that, she was able to finish the book in a week and a half.

Manifesting through Meditation

• From working with clients, Cassandra noticed how most people are skipping meditation when attempting manifestation methods.
• Due to the manifestation catchphrase culture, many believe that manifestation methods without spiritual work are enough.
• In her book, she provided a four-step process to guide readers to grow in meditation when manifesting.
• She details 100 different meditations to guide you in this process. Listen to the full episode to hear more!

The First Step: Remembering Yourself

• People tend to skip this step, not realizing that without it, the process won’t work.
• The primary purpose of meditation is for you to remember who you are.
• When you do, you remember that you are a divine creator, have infinite potential, and limitless possibilities for your life.
• This step is crucial because we manifest from the infinite within us, not from our human personality.
• Tune in to the full episode to hear how Cassandra practices this step!

The Second Step: Connecting to Your Soul

• Once you remember who you are, you connect to your soul’s desires.
• These are different from your human desires, which are usually swayed by peer pressure.
• Our desires are like divine seeds planted in our souls that we are meant to grow.
• You can find your soul’s desires through meditation, where you bare yourself of external pressures and go into your heart and essence.
• We also have to be careful of getting attached to how we want a desire to happen.

The Third Step: Reflection

• This step involves looking at your wounds and limiting beliefs. You have to sit down with yourself and why you have yet to have what you manifest.
• A lot of people hate this step because it makes them evaluate and reassess their life and decisions.
• Cassandra's book has a whole process on how to help you do fear inventory, work through them, and heal.
• When you start shifting your mindset, you get to see the other side of everything, where more things are available to you.
• The limiting beliefs we put on ourselves keep us from manifesting more abundance.

The Last Step: Quantum Embodiment

• Quantum embodiment is the step wherein you believe that the thing you’re manifesting has already happened.
• To get to this level, you should not be restrained by your own beliefs.
• You don't have to wait for it to happen. Act like you already got it, and you will attract it even faster.
• In this step, you have to ask yourself: How would the next-level version of me do life?

Cassandra’s Personal Experience of Quantum Embodiment

• One of the biggest things that Cassandra manifested was being in a cooking show on ABC.
• She used to post amateur videos of herself cooking on YouTube because she enjoyed it. That is how a producer of the show found her.
• She also manifested her books. She was already talking about it to her friends even if the writing had not started yet.
• Cassandra only started writing the book when she got the deal. But, it didn’t matter because she was energetically sending the message that she was willing to show up.
• Whenever she wants something to happen, she acts as if it happened already. That’s what she did when she set up a home studio, which paved the way for her acting career.

Rosie’s Manifestation

• Before, Rosie wanted to do public speaking. However, she didn’t really enjoy being on camera.
• She enrolled herself in a monologue acting class where she read a poetry book in front of everyone.
• She was terrified, which speaks to how manifesting takes hard work and not just feeling your fantasy.
• The class helped her feel more confident and empowered in all areas of her personal and professional life.
• Looking back, Rosie thinks that class was what she needed to create the podcast.

Everything Happens for a Reason

• Cassandra suggests that we should be open and intuitive about other people’s suggestions.
• We think that our journey to our desire is linear. Sometimes we have to trust that the dots are going to connect.
• Our desires may be guiding us to another thing which we have yet to conceive.

How Cassandra Feels Radically Loved

• She feels radically loved through meditation, which allows her to have a dialogue with her ‘divine support squad’.
• She ends up seeing and feeling their support as she moves through every day.

5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode

[07:29] “I believe that manifestation is something that you have to not only cultivate in a spiritual sense, but also, it's something that you think. It's something that you say. It's something that you do.”

[08:55] “There's this illusion that you can snap your fingers, manifest stuff without actually doing the spiritual work that requires.”

[11:56] “When you remember who we are, then we remember that we're divine creators; we remember that we have infinite potential, that we have limitless possibilities for our life.”

[12:18] “We don’t manifest from our human personality, right? We manifest from the infinite within us.”

[32:15] “It could be the journey that having that desire brings us on actually leads us to something that we couldn't even conceive at that moment because it wasn't even available in our consciousness yet.”

About Cassandra

Cassandra Bodzak is a thought leader and global meditation and wellness teacher. She devotes her life to helping wonder women make peace with their bodies, quiet their minds, and reconnect with their souls. That’s why she founded an online community about mind-soul-body support.

She is the author of the bestselling book, Eat with Intention: Recipes and Meditations for a Life that Lights You Up. Her latest book guides individuals through manifestation methods involving meditation. Cassandra is also known as the happy, healthy living guru on ABC’s The Taste with Anthony Bourdain.

If you want to connect with Cassandra, you can visit her website, Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter. Or join her online mind-body-soul support community Aprecity. You can also subscribe to her YouTube channel for new episodes of her mindful cooking show!

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#WisdomWednesdays: Generating Luck and Maximizing Opportunities for a Successful Life

For sure, there have been situations in your life when you felt lucky. You may have been able to get to your appointment just in time or made a decision that led you away from harm. Most of the time, these things just happen, without rhyme or reason. But did you know that you can also invite luck for you to have a happy and successful life ? 

In this episode, Rosie and Tessa discuss the ways luck plays into our lives. They share how manifesting what you want also involves hard work and grit. When you want to generate more luck for a successful life, you need to make sure you’re committed and know why you do what you do. By staying optimistic and patient, you’ll get there someday too. 

Tune in to discover how to generate opportunities and luck for a happy and successful life!

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1. Get insights on how luck affects us and keeps us on the path towards a successful life.
2. Understand that for you to achieve success, your actions must follow your thoughts.
3. Know the importance of being able to afford the successful life that you want.

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Episode Highlights

How to Define Luck

• Luck can be seen as a way for people to cope with events beyond their control. It helps people stay optimistic.
• However, there may be times when there is a synchronicity of events happening in perfect unison with outcomes that can only be possible through divine intervention.
• In the full episode, Rosie and Tessa share stories where luck saved them from traumatic events.

Luck and How It Directs People

• People can view luck negatively. For example, some would say how it’s lucky for others to have certain things.
• Remember that achieving certain goals also involves hard work and commitment.
• Thus, we should view luck with more nuance.
• Rosie believes in an unseen force, a divine intervention, guiding us to make the right decisions.

Manifesting and Acting Towards a Successful Life

• Manifestation is all about action that follows thought. Nothing happens when you don’t act on it.
• In the same way, you can foster more luck in your life by working for it.
• There will be times, however, when you won’t see results.
• This lack of success could be because it’s not yet time or perhaps the thing you’re trying to do is not serving your highest good.

Knowing Your Inner Compass

• Whenever you find yourself stuck, ask yourself these two questions: Who are you doing this for? Why are you doing what you’re doing?
• Beyond this, you need to ask yourself: Can you afford the career you want? That is, are you putting in the effort and investment necessary to actively live your career path?
• A successful life doesn't happen overnight. You need to keep generating luck and optimizing your opportunities.

Moving Forward from Loss and Challenges

• You may face challenges along the way, but you need to keep moving forward and stay motivated.
• A successful life takes time and effort to achieve. Rosie shares that her status in life took around 15 years to build.
• If you know what you want and you’re committed to putting in the work to achieve it, you can build a successful life.

Finding Your Happiness

• Rosie and Tessa share in the full episode how their entrepreneurial journey was full of challenges, but they knew they were in the right place.
• Not everyone is suited for entrepreneurship. What’s important is that you’re happy and content where you are.
• Remember to keep yourself open to possibilities and opportunities so luck can come into your life.

5 Powerful Quotes

[07:55] “There's so much synchronicity in certain things that happen that it's hard to believe that a whole slew of events happens so perfectly in perfect unison that create an outcome that couldn't have happened for any other reason than a divine intervention.”

[28:44] “Energy follows thought. Whatever it is you're thinking and whatever it is you're working towards, it's not just magically manifested out of thin air; there's action behind it.”

[36:14] “[Sucess] does not happen overnight. You need to be able to put yourself in a pathway where you are generating luck, but you're also maximizing your opportunities when you do get that luck.”

[40:54] “If you are committed and you know in your heart that this is what you want to do, it works 100% of the time.”

[48:07] “When you open yourself up to [luck] and proactively begin the movements and strategies and dreaming towards it, I believe that that's when things come into sync, and your life begins to unravel in a way that maybe it’s meant to.”

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How to Find Life’s Purpose and Keep Your Spark Alive During the Pandemic with Jonathan Fields

How has the pandemic changed you? Being thrust into a situation where everything is uncertain would make anyone feel frustrated, stressed, and uneasy. Some may have overcome the challenges and begun thriving despite — or because of — the new normal we live in. But it’s not everyone. Some people have lost their jobs or loved ones. Still, the world continues to turn; there’s nowhere for us to go but forward.

So how can you figure out how to find life’s purpose  amid this global crisis? Jonathan Fields has one answer to doing exactly that. In today's episode, he describes one method for coping with the ongoing pandemic. He'll also discuss and share insights from his latest book, Sparked.

If you want to know how to find life’s purpose and keep your spark alive, then this episode is for you!

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

1. Get insights on how to find life’s purpose and reignite your passion for your work even during the pandemic.
2. Understand why it’s crucial to allow yourself to be vulnerable and let others into your experience.
3. Discover how to expand your potential, both in work and life, even with the current situation.

Resources

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Episode Highlights

Jonathan the Good Life Guy

• Jonathan also hosts The Good Life Podcast, which inspired Rosie to start Radically Loved.
• You can always learn something – whether big or small – from the people that you meet.

Jonathan’s Yoga History

• Before venturing into writing and podcasts, Jonathan wanted to open a yoga center in New York.
• Then, the 9/11 incident occurred, spurring him on to continue the center. Jonathan believed people needed a place for healing and community.
• Jonathan taught yoga for seven years before moving into his current work.

Human Relationships and Going Analog

• The pandemic pushed most of our social interactions into the digital space.
• Jonathan recently prefers going analog when it comes to relationships since we have lost that physical aspect of socializing.
• Physical objects, like letters, transmit a level of intentionality and love that can emotionally connect us.

Writing “Sparked” During the Pandemic

• Jonathan already had the idea of the book in his head even before the pandemic started.
• The book is about seeing and understanding yourself clearly, as well as having hope and possibility.
• As the pandemic progressed, the intention of the book began to change.
• Jonathan wishes that his book helps other people meaningfully reflect on themselves during this pandemic.

The Writing Process

• The core of the book is about "sparketypes" — a tool for you to understand what work makes you feel excited and alive.
• Jonathan identifies himself as a “maker” — a person that focuses on manifesting ideas.
• During the pandemic, he had the chance to delve deep into this “creation mode” and just do his own thing.
• Doing things that satisfy your innate impulses can help you feel more grounded despite the anxiety and unease this global crisis brings.
• Jonathan hopes to delve deeper into how to access this feeling of equanimity.

How to Find Life’s Purpose with the Sparketypes?

• As a maker, Jonathan wanted to do more than just replicate other bodies of work. He would not have continued working on the sparketypes if this were the case.
• This project started with many people asking him how to find life’s purpose and feel more alive.
• Jonathan posits that there are a set of mappable impulses for work. These impulses have a set of common tendencies or archetypes, which he calls sparketypes.
• He wanted to validate this idea, so he built an assessment tool that over half a million people have completed.
• Many individuals have found this tool valuable in answering how to find life’s purpose.

How Jonathan Continues to Practice Yoga

• Even if he is no longer teaching yoga per se, he still considers his work on exploring the human condition and finding ways to reduce suffering as a part of his practice.

To All Who Have Lost Their Light

• An experience like the pandemic can change you forever, and there is no going back to the person you were before.
• Allow yourself to feel a painful moment thoroughly rather than forcing yourself to get out of this space. It’s okay to be sad.
• Many people have felt a sense of isolation; know that you are not alone. 
• Give yourself permission to feel vulnerable and allow others to share the experience with you.
• Your feelings and experiences are valid. Acknowledge the truth in them and how they have affected you. 

How to Find Life’s Purpose in the Pandemic

• Inequity is more palpable now than ever since plenty of people have lost their jobs because of COVID-19.
• Not everyone is adequately equipped with resources to live a comfortable life in this pandemic. 
• Look into what is accessible and available to you and find ways to work with it.
• Reflect on what you truly value and think of how you can achieve it. 
• Life is fleeting, so do things not only for security but also for their meaning.

Keeping the Spark Burning

• Search for activities, tools, and processes that you regularly use, then investigate how they can make your work more meaningful.
• There will always be ways that enable you to express your sparketype in the work you do. Once you do, you will feel much more fulfilled.
• We can’t ignore and address hard truths. However, we need to create a healthy boundary in what we let in.

How Jonathan Feels Radically Loved

• Jonathan feels radically loved in every possible way – by his family, friends, and everyone around him.

5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode

[12:20] “When you actually can allocate more of your energy to doing the work that aligns with this innate impulse, it gives you this sense of grounding.”

[23:11] “Give yourself permission to be vulnerable and open to inviting other people into your life who you trust and who, you know, were there to support you.”

[23:31] “The starting point, is to own the truth of this experience, to own the truth of how you're feeling, to know that it's actually okay to feel those things, and to allow people into the experience with you to help.”

[27:57] “Life is tender, and sometimes short and fleeting.”

[39:20] "We are addicted to the noise of everything falling apart...You can acknowledge those but at the same time, create both healthy boundaries in what you let in and what you don't let in.”

About Jonathan

Jonathan Fields is an award-winning author, Webby-nominated producer, and business innovator. He has dedicated his life to creating things that can inspire people and teach them how to find life’s purpose. He continues to impart his experiences that spark the 3P’s: purpose, possibility, and potential. Jonathan is known as the Good Life Guy, as he hosts one of the most well-known podcasts called Good Life Project.

In addition to writing bestsellers like How to Live a Good Life and Uncertainty: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance, Jonathan also founded several notable companies. Spark Endeavors, which hosts Sparketypes—a powerful tool for generating global data set and insight-based solutions—is his most recent. 

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#WisdomWednesdays: How to Let Go of Resentment

We’re all different people with different belief systems, communication styles, and experiences in life. As such, disagreements in relationships are inevitable. But, when you come from a place of love and compassion, you can move past it and learn how to let go of resentment . It can be tricky, but it is necessary for a healthy relationship. The secret is taking a step back to check in with yourself and hold space for others.

In today’s episode, Rosie and Tessa talk about the importance of holding space in relationships. They recall some personal experiences that have proven the beauty of holding space for and honoring each other amidst disagreements and budding resentment. They also break down the feeling of resentment to better understand its root and how to turn it down.

Tune in to this episode to discover the transformative power of holding space and releasing resentment in shaping a healthier relationship with yourself and others.

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

1. Find out a new approach in dealing with disagreements in relationships.
2. Discover the beauty and importance of holding space for yourself and others.
3. Learn how to let go of resentment.

Resources

• Fierce Love: A Bold Path To Ferocious Courage And Rule-Breaking Kindness That Can Heal The World by Dr. Jacqui Lewis
• Maybe It’s You: Cut The Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life. by Lauren Zander
• We’d love to get a listener on board the Wisdom Wednesday Podcast! Send us an email at info@radicallyloved.com with the subject “Wisdom Wednesday” and tell us your name, contact information, and any topic or question you’d want to discuss.
• Create a daily meditation ritual in just seven days! Download BUILD YOUR DAILY MEDITATION RITUAL and other freebies from theRadically Loved website!
• FREE Action Guide! Apply the lessons you learn from this episode as you listen! Sign up at com, and I’ll send it right away!

Episode Highlights

Tessa’s Recent Trip to Germany

• Tessa just got back from a trip to Germany to visit her best friend.
• According to her, spending time with her best friend feels like home.
• What she loves about their friendship is the way it is radically honest and supportive.

On Friendships

• Friendships are like romantic relationships in many ways.
• It's crucial to share openly, honor each other, and give some space for each other to grow.
• After getting sick from COVID, Rosie started to bring more intention to making time for her friends.
• She finds importance in nourishing her innermost circle of friends and family consistently.
• For this, voice notes come in handy. It can help you stay connected with friends and be an outlet for your feelings.

Dealing with Disagreements

• There are instances when we’re not ready to hear what someone has to tell us; we need to learn how to move past those.
• Tessa recalls her falling out with her best friend. She suddenly stopped talking to Tessa for two years.
• When they reconciled, it was hard for Tessa to accept how her best friend felt towards her. But she had to respect her experience and give her some space and time.
• For Tessa, leaving space for others and herself helps her deal with such mishaps.
• We all have different belief systems and processes. When it comes to disagreements, the best thing you can do is honor and respect someone’s boundary out of love.

In-Person Conversations vs. Text Conversations

• In-person conversations can better portray reactions and feelings.
• Conversing through text can be a challenge because things might get taken the wrong way.
• Regardless if it’s a face-to-face or text conversation, Rosie reminds us that other people do not communicate the same way you do.
• You have to be open to receive how other people communicate so you can meet eye to eye.

Communication Styles

• Tessa shares that she appreciates and finds safety in her partner’s direct communication style.
• It is possible to be direct and compassionate at the same time.
• You can speak your truth from a place of love and compassion.

How to Let Go of Resentment

• Rosie talks about her interview with Dr. Jacqui Lewis about speaking your truth but feeling resentment afterward.
• You might find discomfort in the space between what you want the outcome to be and what the outcome is, and this may draw resentment.
• Your resentment can come from premeditated expectations that are not met by someone else, and that’s on you.
• There is so much give and take in a relationship. Discerning your expectations and being mindful of them can help you learn how to let go of resentment.

Final Thoughts

• Resentment or disappointment in a relationship can come from a lost connection with yourself. Take a moment to see what’s happening.
• We can be experts at finger-pointing at others. We also have to point fingers back at ourselves to see if we’re the ones with a problem.
• Holding space for and honoring each other is essential in any relationship.

5 Powerful Quotes

[10:51] “I lean towards giving the person space, and I approach that across the board with grieving someone’s loss, or betrayal, or things with that nature.”

[12:25] “One of the best definitions of loving someone to me is the whole concept of accepting all of who they are.”

[24:07] “We have certain people in our lives that fulfill a certain role. And if they're not filling that role exactly how you want it, that's not on them. That's on you.”

[25:23] “Expectations are premeditated resentments because you’ve lost sight of the connection with yourself.”

[29:03] “If you don’t leave room for the other, where does the light come in?”

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The Power of Interacting and Connecting with People with Joe Keohane

From a young age, our elders teach us to distrust people we don't know. One of the most popular children's stories revolves around this idea. Little Red Riding Hood goes out to her grandma. She talks to a stranger in the form of a sly fox. She arrives at her grandma's house only to find out she's been tricked. The moral of the story is singular—strangers have wicked intentions, so you have to be wary of them. But is there credence to this? 

In today's episode, we're joined by Joe Keohane, a journalist, parallel parker, and a firm believer of the goodness in humanity and strangers. He debunks the stranger danger propaganda and explains the benefits of connecting with people . Cooperation and connection are part of our nature, and also our secret to success. Joe teaches us to overcome our fear of talking to strangers and how to have more meaningful interactions with them.

Tune in to the full episode to tap into the power of connecting with strangers for self-expansion!

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

1. Discover the benefits of engaging and connecting with people.
2. Understand, on a deeper level, your fear of talking to others.
3. Gain some inspiration and insights into how you can connect with strangers comfortably.

Resources

• Connect with Joe: Twitter | LinkedIn
• Joe's book, The Power of Strangers
• Theory of Self-Expansion
• Mistakenly Seeking Solitude, a report on connecting with strangers conducted by Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder
• University of Essex social psychologist Gillian Sandstrom
• Duke evolutionary psychologist Michael Tomasello
• University of Michigan psychologist Oscar Ybarra
• Braver Angels organization
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Episode Highlights

Behind Joe’s Book and the Current Social Climate

• Joe's parents like talking to strangers. Now, even in their 70s, they still make new friends.
• He found this trait interesting. Although he is not as confident as his parents, he went into journalism, which involves a lot of talking to strangers as well.
• After having a moving conversation with a cab driver, Joe realized he hasn't been connecting with people as much as he did.
• Joe thinks two factors contribute to this decrease in engagement with others: stress from work and the advent of smartphones.
• Wanting to know more, Joe spent a few years researching how we connect with people. This was the genesis of his book.

The Effects of Connecting with People

• Connecting with people is akin to self-expansion.
• When you talk to someone and have a profound connection with them, you can gain new perspectives on the world.
• Talking to someone different from you can also help you expand your viewpoints and reconsider your opinions about their race or country.
• These connections challenge preconceived ideas of the world and the people in it, which in turn alleviates prejudice and political polarization.

The Fear of Talking to Strangers

• As a child, Joe was bombarded with stranger danger propaganda. Research shows that this belief eroded an entire generation’s trust in other people.
• However, the claim that strangers pose a mortal threat is statistically baseless. In reality, more crimes are committed by people already close to the victim.
• Things like inequality, gender, race, and political orientation can make it harder to initiate connecting with people.
• People fear interacting with strangers because they don't know how to do it. Listen to the full episode to hear more about the research behind this anxiety!
• But once you begin conversing with others, it tends to go much better than you expect.

Flipping the Scripts

• When asked how we’re doing, we usually respond to others’ questions by rote. These answers are called scripts.
• Joe challenged himself to break these scripts when he interacts with others.
• To his surprise, this led to more meaningful interactions, however short. Connecting with people this way can make us feel more optimistic and trusting.
• We tend to overestimate the rejection we will experience when starting conversations with strangers. Tune in to the episode to find out about the research on the topic!

Interactions In-Person vs. On Social Media

• Social media allows you to be anonymous. You can also plan what you'll say ahead of replying.
• Meanwhile, talking to people in person is more cognitively challenging.
• However, you get mentally stronger as you start connecting with people more.
• In addition, it is our nature to communicate and collaborate with others. It is a trait that set us apart from other mammals and allowed us to form civilizations.

Dangers of Disconnecting from People

• Lack of interaction and connection is poison to society.
• The polarization that it causes further leads to entrenchment and dehumanization of other people and groups.
• Online, it's much easier to dismiss people based on their opinions. Whereas in person, we are driven to seek commonality with others.
• You can have a conversation with people with opposing views. You just have to go out there seeking to understand.
• Media platforms give us a negative perception of other people. By going out into the world and connecting with others, you can correct this pessimism.

Connecting with People in the Current Political Climate

• Joe recently spent time with an organization that helps Democrats and Republicans connect with each other.
• Being from Boston and living in New York, Joe identifies as a moderate liberal.
• His research and experiences made him less dismissive of people from the other side.
• He’s hopeful that while it will take time, we can achieve political rebuilding.
• If you hear something you don’t like, don’t be quick to dismiss or respond contemptuously. Instead, pause for a second and try to understand the other view.

The Problem with Today’s Society

• Humans are hypersocial creatures. Cooperation is in our basic human nature and the secret to success.
• But due to various factors, we have become smaller and angrier beings.
• Now that we're not fulfilling our social needs, rates of depression and loneliness are skyrocketing.
• To combat this, we need to try interacting and connecting with people.

How Joe Feels Radically Loved

• Joe’s 5-year old recently described her love for him as something that makes her heart explode.
• That’s what makes Joe radically loved.

5 Powerful Quotes

[12:28] “The main fear that people had was just a fear that they didn't know how to [interact with others].”

[16:31] “There's a raft of benefits to even having like kind of high-quality small talk with somebody. You just have to actually do it.”

[21:07] “It comes pretty natural to people once they do it. Once they get past the anxiety and once they work those muscles a little bit, it becomes second nature.

[31:01] “Instead of being reactive, act more wisely.”

[33:38] “We're wired for connection. That's the secret to the success of the species.”

About Joe

Joe Keohane is a veteran journalist who’s held high-level positions in publications like Esquire, The New Yorker, Wired, and Boston Magazine. He has also contributed to writing several textbooks and a screenplay.

His life revolves around talking to people he barely knows and reporting facts and data. Fueled by curiosity, he decided to intensively research connecting with people and their value for self-expansion. This work resulted in his book, The Power of Strangers.

You can learn more about Joe on his website or connect with him through Twitter and LinkedIn.

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