Becoming Better by Shifting Your Mindset and Taking Control of Your Life with Bricia Lopez
Growing up, our parents tell us what to do and what not to do. Thus, even as we grow into our unique selves, we still feel restricted in doing and pursuing what we want. We base our decisions as adults on the things we learned and heard growing up. But becoming better does not happen this way. You should shift your mindset and start taking control of your life. That's when freedom, contentment, and fulfillment come in.
In this episode, Bricia Lopez talks about the most valuable lessons she learned from motherhood and running a family business. She shares the experience of being pregnant and giving birth during the pandemic, along with navigating the new normal as an entrepreneur. Bricia also lets us take a peek at what it's like working with her family in their business. She discusses how understanding you're in control is crucial in decision-making and becoming better as a person.
If you’re stuck in a mindset that keeps you from moving forward, then this episode is for you!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Discover how motherhood pushed Bricia to become a better person.
- Find out what generational wealth is and what it does for families.
- Learn how resilience pushes you to move forward no matter the adversities.
How Bricia Handled the Pandemic
- She was 20 weeks pregnant in March last year and gave birth in July.
- The experience of carrying her baby through the pandemic was grounding for Bricia.
- The pandemic put things into perspective. At the end of the day, it’s all about taking care of her children.
- Because she was high-risk, she had to stay home and let her team manage her restaurant.
Becoming Better for Her Children
- For Bricia, giving birth to a girl was a completely different experience from giving birth to a boy.
- After she gave birth to her baby girl, felt the urge of becoming better.
- She took care of her body during the first few weeks after her pregnancy and dropped her bad habits.
- Bricia admits that she did not take care of her body after giving birth to her firstborn. This time around, becoming better at this aspect of motherhood was her priority.
- Being pregnant during the pandemic made it easier for Bricia to slow down.
Navigating the New Normal
- Bricia is now back to the grind 100%. She has someone who helps take care of her daughter.
- Despite being busy again, she feels at peace because she loves what she does.
- She doesn’t feel guilty leaving her daughter behind because she got to spend so much time with her one-on-one.
- With the economy opening up, it feels like the roaring 20s again for businesses.
- Their website is now called ilovemole.com. It’s easier to remember than the previous guelaguetza.com.
- The restaurant is in Koreatown in Los Angeles.
- They specialize in Oaxacan cooking.
Building Generational Wealth
- Bricia loves working with her family. She runs the family business with her brother and sister.
- They’re building something that will last for the next generation. They are also becoming better at handling their finances than their parents.
- For Bricia, generational wealth allows you to be in control of your time.
- As a result, you can be more creative. You are also more at peace and present.
- By building generational wealth, she is allowing her children to explore what they want without having to worry about money.
- We are continuously graduate mentally to another state of mind.
- We go through mental high school and mental college. Then, we get to the place where we open doors to new dimensions of financial knowledge.
- Becoming better means you have to keep learning.
- It’s important to remember that age doesn't define your capacity to learn new things.
- Bricia didn’t realize how big of a hold her parents had on her life until they retired.
- She always wanted to be a graphic designer, but her father was against it. Bricia wished she didn’t listen and just went for it.
- She realized she could do anything when her parents retired and moved away. She and her siblings bought the restaurant from their parents and took over.
- Making a decision and following through it is the hardest skill to learn and lean on.
- No one has control of your life but you. Understanding this will make you realize that you can do anything you want.
How Resilience Impacted Bricia’s Decision-Making
- Adversities will always happen in life and business; it’s the way the world works.
- You can decide to stop and backtrack, or you can stop, learn, and move forward.
- Once you understand why something happened, you’ll realize it’s not that big of a deal and develop a new perspective.
- Opportunities come when you’re not scared. You keep becoming better as you face and deal with issues and adversities.
- Becoming better at self-compassion is one of the hardest things to learn in life. Yet, it’s one of the most useful tools you can have.
The Most Important Value Bricia Wants Her Children to Have
- For Bricia, it’s confidence. If you’re innately confident, you can make anything happen no matter what the world tells you.
- Innate confidence is different from given confidence or fake confidence that makes a person delusional.
- Instead of giving her son fake confidence, she builds his self-esteem by letting him fail, explore, and do things for himself.
How Bricia Feels Radically Love
- Working in the hospitality industry, her life revolves around serving people.
- And so, Bricia feels radically loved when people listen to her and give their time, compassion, and energy without taking.
5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode
[06:14] “I just need to become a better woman. I need to become even a better version of me for [my daughter].”
[15:16] “Generational wealth means having more control of your time, without the stress of other things.”
[18:51] “No one's too old to learn anything.”
[22:37] “Getting used to the fact that making a decision and following through that decision is probably the hardest skill to learn and lean on.”
[29:27] “[Confidence is] something that you have to innately understand. They have to fail and then learn that they can do it themselves.”
Bricia Lopez is a restaurant owner, entrepreneur, and best-selling author. She is the co-owner of an Oaxacan restaurant, Guelaguetza. Additionally, Bricia is a co-founder of Mole and More, together with her siblings. They sell proprietary cocktail mix, I Love Micheladas, and mole paste. Beyond this, Bricia is also the co-founder and co-host of the Super Mamás Podcast.
As one of the foremost proponents of Oaxacan culture and cuisine in the United States, Bricia is the author of the best-selling cookbook, Oaxaca. In 2015, the James Beard Award Foundation awarded her restaurant the American Classics award. The L.A. Times also granted her the Latinos de Hoy Cultural Ambassador Award. Bricia has been featured in various publications, including The L.A. Times, Forbes, The New Yorker, and GQ Magazine.
If you want to connect with Bricia, you may visit her Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, and Facebook accounts.
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