Radically Loved® with Rosie Acosta

Hello Friends, I’m Rosie Acosta. I am a Meditation Teacher; Speaker and Author of You Are Radically Loved: A healing journey to self-love. I grew up in East Los Angeles during the 92 La Riots and it set me on a troubled path for many years. I didn’t grow up with mentors in my life, so I turned to reading as many books as I possibly could to learn about life’s purpose. In my journey as a First Gen-Mexican American, I found having these conversations gave me insight, support, and inspiration. So, I decided to create a place where I could share these conversations with my community. The Radically Loved Podcast was born! How do we create a radically loved life? Come have a sit with me so we can discover all things mindfulness, spirituality, self-love, and overall healthy living. Please be sure to share the episodes that you love and also leave us a review!
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Dec 17, 2021
Fighting Misinformation with Engaging Conversations with Jessica Lanyadoo
The rise of false information on the Internet and media has been troubling. We especially feel its effects in the middle of the pandemic as we grasp for answers on what to do and when we can return to normalcy. So, there is no greater time than now to address the issue of misinformation.
In this episode, Jessica Lanyadoo discusses the relevance of engaging conversations in fighting misinformation. We’ll also tackle why current criticisms of the spiritual community can be a good thing. Furthermore, we’ll explore how we can confront people who have fallen into the trap of false information. Lastly, we’ll also talk about why blocking negative thoughts is not the way to spirituality.

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Episode Highlights
The Time Rosie Stole a Cop Car
●Rosie was 15 years old when she was caught playing around in a cop car.
●When the cops came, she tried to be sly and play it off.
●She was arrested and booked into the system. Luckily, her dad bailed her out.
●Because of this incident, Rosie was under parole for half of her high school life.
Life After Arrest
●The system doesn’t set you up for success.
●However, Rosie still felt lucky. She had a supportive family and probation officer.
●But the stigma of being a troubled kid cannot be avoided.
●Yoga and meditation changed her life during those turbulent times.
The Importance of Names
●Jessica’s last name is of Spanish origin, so a lot of people tend to mispronounce it.
●While she doesn’t mind her name being mispronounced, she still understands the power pronouncing a name properly has.
●On the same note, Rosie’s last name is also mispronounced often. But she doesn’t feel like she has to correct people for it.
The Past Months for Jessica
●Jessica is not an optimist. The year 2021 has been tougher than 2020 for her.
●There’s a lot of pressure to go back to normal. But we’re still confronted with a lot of problems like a lot of people getting sick and dying.
●We’re also facing climate change and political unrest in the middle of the pandemic.
●Back in 2019, other astrologers have also predicted that something terrible was coming.
●As an empath and astrologer, the whole situation is stressful for Jessica. She also worries about how the future may shake out.
The Challenge of Uranus in Taurus Transit
●The Uranus in Taurus transit challenges us to learn what and who we value.
●The overlap of World War II and the current rise of fascism globally tells us a lot about human nature.
●A certain percentage of the population will always agree with a fascist. This situation must be considered by spiritual people as a trauma response.
●But these people still deserve empathy, even if they may be our enemies.
●The current situation then challenges us to live in a way that reflects our values.
Acknowledging Negative Thoughts
●Nobody’s life is completely positive all the time. It’s the human condition.
●But some people ignore bad things happening around them because they believe they should not pull negative thoughts into their sphere.
●This belief is a gross misuse of privilege and a misunderstanding of spiritual concepts.
●If we cannot stay aligned with the positive or constructive while we are in the reality of terrible things, then we have more spiritual work to do.
●We must learn to be present and kind not because of its results but because it’s the way to be.
Keeping Ourselves Informed
●Our society tells women to let men handle important things. Although not a conscious intention, it’s become a cultural heritage.
●Women must be informed and allowed to state their opinions about the world and the news.
●Individually, we must learn to figure out how to translate things ourselves. It’s important not to rely on others when it comes to digesting information.
●It’s impossible to describe information to someone without putting your spin on it.
●“Crowdsourcing” with a group of people you trust to keep each other informed is also possible. This practice can help empathy translate into action and civic engagement.
Engaging Conversations to Put Things into Perspective
●Rosie recently had a conversation with her mother about why she used to wear black all the time.
●She was living in an area and going to a school where colors can get you killed. Wearing the wrong shade can potentially cause an issue with gangs.
●Engaging conversations like this helped put things into perspective for her mom. If they had discussed this at that time, it would have put less stress on both parties.
●This example further emphasizes why we need to be authentically interested in the other person and where they’re coming from.
Sharing Your Truth
●Rosie’s parents are proud of her book. But they still have reservations on why she needs to share her business with the world.
●This reaction has much to do with the cultural and generation gap. Millennials are more comfortable with personal sharing than Boomers.
How Jessica Feels Radically Loved
●Jessica compared the feeling of being radically loved to that of her vagus nerve named “Viva Las Vagus.”
●Her vagus nerve is her ally and resource.
●For the first time in her life, she’s starting to appreciate, work with, and treat it with the reverence it deserves.
5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode
[23:54] “The spiritual community...does deserve criticism, because we have a responsibility to be civically, politically, [and] socially-minded to take responsibility for the power of our actions and our words.”
[26:14] “We need to be able to talk about how to be critical thinkers and what's the difference between disinformation and misinformation and misunderstandings. How do you determine what's real and what's not real?”
[40:19] “It doesn't matter how much we practice being spiritual. At the end of the day, we can't just go live in a cave somewhere and pretend like everything is, at times, not falling apart.”
[41:27] “If we cannot stay aligned with the positive or the constructive, while we are in the reality of all sorts of terrible things, then we have more spiritual work to do.”
[47:13] “Whatever strategies we can come up with to be informed, stay informed, not just empathetic on a spiritual level, but to have empathy translate into action and civic engagement, that’s what will make this Pluto return ideal.”
About Jessica
Jessica Lanyadoo is a well-renowned psychic medium and astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She has also authored a book titled: Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along.
When she’s not out in the world helping people be awesome, she hosts the Ghost of a Podcast and posts weekly horoscopes on her website.
To know more about Jessica, check out or connect with her on Instagram.
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Dec 16, 2021
Have you ever been mad at someone who hadn’t done anything to you? Or perhaps felt that someone was upset at you for no reason? Everyone handles negative emotions differently — some people respond with forgiveness and mindfulness. However, sometimes we hold those negative emotions inside us. If we don’t understand emotions, we pass them onto others and get angry at people who don’t deserve it. This phenomenon is called transference.

In this episode, Nicky Sciortino discusses transference and its significance in our lives. She also encourages us to examine our emotions and acknowledge if we have committed transference before. Accepting ourselves is only half of the battle. Nicky guides us into finding solutions to avoid redirecting our negative emotions and feelings to others.

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Episode Highlights
Nicky, an Avid Listener of Radically Loved
●Nicky incorporated the lessons she learned on the Radically Loved podcast in her yoga classes.
●She loved listening to the podcast, especially during the pandemic, where she couldn't talk to her friends as much.
●Listening to the show was like getting to have girl talk with her friends.
About Transference
●Transference refers to redirecting the feelings you have from one person to another individual.
●You know you’re on the receiving end because you can’t find a reasonable explanation for the other person’s behavior.
●Nicky experienced transference when she joined a yoga class led by an upset instructor. Tune in to the full episode to hear the story!
●Nicky went back to what she learned from Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements. One of these lessons is don't take anything personally.
●Projecting is different from transference. It refers to attributing your negative emotions and qualities to another person.
Nicky’s Experience of Committing Transference
●Nicky had a student who kept getting under her skin. She can't figure out why.
●After Nicky's yoga class, a student roughly 30 years her senior would frequently ask her basic questions about the class, or for personal advice.
●Instead of reacting negatively, Nicky took the time to examine herself and understand emotions.
●She realized she redirected the negative feelings she had with her abusive mother to her student.
●When you lash out at someone, you're expressing your pent-up negative emotions. It’s your responsibility to understand why you react the way you do.
Not Everyone Can Be a Teacher
●People practice yoga to feel nourished, filled, and connected to their bodies and community. It's not a space to be criticized or dismissed.
●Yoga teachers wield a lot of power and influence. Therefore, they carry a lot of responsibility.
●We should focus on quality instead of the number of yoga instructors.
●Yoga teachers must actively pursue their yogic path to teach a more profound type of practice.
Understand Emotions, Be Aware of Transference
●The topic of transference reminded Tessa of Ram Dass’s quote: "I would like my life to be a statement of love and compassion—and where it isn't, that's where my work lies.”
●Examining ourselves if we committed transference is difficult and scary because it makes us vulnerable.
●Yoga teachers should be aware when they redirect negative emotions to others.
●Many tools can help you avoid transference. Peel back the layers of the onion, understand emotions, and scrub yourself!
●When you’re a recipient of transference, remember that it’s the other person’s issue and not yours.
Continue Reflecting on Ourselves
●It's crucial to continue examining ourselves and help others do the same. Take accountability and invite in that compassion and self-study all at once.
●There may not be a pot at the end of the rainbow, but it’s beautiful to see ourselves evolve through time.
●Working on ourselves allows us to live an authentic life.
●In unraveling our embedded thoughts and beliefs, we become fully present.

5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode

[13:35] “...we're all works in progress. We all make mistakes — and how do you learn from it?”

[21:43] “When you're able to take care of your own demons, they don't become triggers anymore.”

[22:34] “Whenever somebody makes you angry, remember that they're an empty boat. That anger exists inside of you. It's your job to understand those triggers. It's your job to not be the reactor.”

[24:42] “If people were more conscious and awake about their own personal experience, we wouldn't have as many unfavorable interactions with other people.”

[37:46] “The whole purpose of doing all of this is to unravel all of those embedded thoughts and beliefs and transform them into exactly what is present.”

About Nicky

Nicky Sciortino is an author, illustrator, and yoga instructor. She wrote the book Finding Yourself in the World that follows one puzzle piece's journey to find its unique gifts and talents.

Nicky first tried yoga to prevent injury as she was training for the marathon. She later fell in love with the practice as it complimented every aspect of her life. It helped her prepare mentally during jiu-jitsu competitions and made her know her body better.

She became a Registered Yoga Teacher (RYT) in 2017. Since then, she has taught yoga in different venues, from studios to military bases! Nicki is also passionate about applying sports medicine and yoga philosophy during class to help her students feel mentally and physically better.
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Dec 15, 2021
Humans need to feel valued and appreciated. When you’re dating someone, it’s also normal to desire validation from your partner — about the smallest things like your OOTD to things like your character and personality. And as wonderful as it is to receive compliments, offering them to others could also improve your relationship with them. Giving compliments communicates the appreciation you have for each other.

In this episode of #WisdomWednesdays, Tessa and Rosie talk about the importance of praise and compliments in keeping a relationship healthy. As they dive into the topic, they also express the difficulty of starting new relationships in this day and age of online dating. Lastly, Tessa shares the best way to respond to compliments.

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Episode Highlights
Tessa’s Boyfriend
●Tessa’s boyfriend, Jorge, is terrible at massaging. She describes his hands as “hulk paws.”
●Although Tessa and her boyfriend are in a happy relationship, sometimes she thinks about him differently — good at cooking and massaging.
●One common dating problem is thinking that there is somebody better than your partner when there isn’t.
Tessa and Rosie’s Thoughts on Dating
●Both Tessa and Rosie have been in a happy relationship for decades.
●Tessa finds her boyfriend a great person despite his flaws.
●While there might be many choices in dating, each relationship has its pros and cons.
●Rosie has been in a long-term relationship since she was 20 and enjoys hearing stories from friends about their relationships.
●In the past, dating somebody meant physically meeting up. Nowadays, online communication plays a big part in relationships.
Online Dating
●There are pros and cons to online dating. Rosie has seen online relationships bloom and built many friendships online as well.
●Society’s disembodiment makes it harder to get to know people beyond their pictures. In online dating, attraction becomes largely based on appearance instead of personality.
●Even in the past, maintaining relationships can be difficult when most prioritize other responsibilities.
●The COVID pandemic has made it even harder to create and maintain relationships.
●There is somebody for everybody. Let go of the desperation of finding somebody and the right person will naturally come to you.
The Effects of Praise
●Praise activates the reward areas in the brain.
●Research shows that receiving praise improves skill consolidation. This is a learning process that occurs during sleep.
●Praise is important not just in the workplace but also in relationships. It’s communication and feedback.
●Different people react differently to praise. Nonetheless, it’s important for them to hear compliments.
Receiving and Responding to Praise
●Sometimes, people choose to reply humbly.
●For Tessa, a confident response can make her feel insecure about her value in the relationship.
●When you receive compliments, you can be gracious in accepting the praise by saying “thank you”.
●People tend to minimize their acceptance of praise. They negate or joke about it to turn away the praise.
Fishing for Compliments
●It’s natural for people to want praise.
●One reason people look for compliments is when they need validation from others.
●People want to be valued for being as enough as they are.
●Rosie prefers honesty. When someone is being negative, she would express how harsh they are to themselves.
●Think about how you can respond equally to both praise and criticism to improve yourself and your mindset.
5 Powerful Quotes
[05:43] “We all have our strengths and our weaknesses. There are pros and cons to every relationship. It's not gonna be better, but it'll be different.”
[11:28] “People that [relationships] can potentially happen with that we just don't know because we are an ocular society. We're just using the external to judge whether or not this person is right for us just by their outward appearance.”
[13:03] “For the people that have a desire for companionship, there is somebody out there that's looking for you. There is somebody for everybody... I'm saying the desperation that happens when you're wanting to find somebody so bad. If you release that and let go of that I think you will go into the frequency of attracting that right person for yourself”
[20:56] “I have the hardest time receiving compliments… [The response] can be gracious and accepting that someone thinks that of you .”
[40:51] “It’s like, I want to be valued as enough by just showing up and being here and being me. There's always like this underlying striving to have that reflected back to you when we give everyone else the opportunity to comment on us. Or when we're waiting for someone else to comment on some sort of feature that we have about ourselves that we may or may not feel confident about.”
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Dec 11, 2021
Have you ever become engrossed in negative self-talk? Thinking thoughts that convince you you're not good enough can become a habit and create a rut that's difficult to leave. The toxic habit of listening to your negative inner voice is not productive; it causes you to lose hope, especially if you start to believe in that negative voice. To take charge of our happiness, we must find ways to find our inner wisdom and let go of these unhealthy beliefs.
In this episode, Bryon Katie discusses the importance of challenging our negative thinking to break its hold on us. She also goes over the meaning of the ego and how we can confront it. Finally, she expresses her hopes for the future as we attempt to navigate through these turbulent times.
If you’re interested in freeing yourself from negative thoughts and opening your mind to your life-transforming inner wisdom, this episode is for you!
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Episode Highlights
The Revised Edition of Loving What Is
●Nearly 20 years after its publication, Loving What Is inspires people to do The Work and find the answers inside themselves.
●The Work is simply four questions that help to see what is troubling you.
●The book’s revised edition includes new dialogues and passages to help people understand how to inquire within.
Applying The Work During Turbulent Times
●Byron felt grateful that The Work is out there to help people.
●There is freedom in finding answers through meditative practice.
●The lack of understanding and compassion on what we read, see and think means we have more work to do.
●The Work is an intimate experience. It allows you to access your inner wisdom and pass it on to others.
Being in the State of Loving
●Love is a lot of energy, and it teaches us balance in all things.
●The Work provides the four pillars needed to be in the state of loving.
●Byron’s life mission is to spread a way of being that is heart-centered and authentic.
●Question what you think and believe when troubled. Eventually, everything will make sense.
●People are scared of talking about their experiences and connecting with others.
●Self-inquiry shows us how to love the world.
Inner Wisdom Through Self-Inquiry
●It is only ourselves who can determine if we have the time to self-inquire.
●Challenging what we believe and writing it down on paper changes the way we see the world.
●We are capable of moving forward with our lives despite being afraid.
●Identifying and questioning the ego’s negative thoughts helps us find our inner wisdom. It’s a meditative practice that shifts how we see the world.
●If we love everything we think, then we are going to be okay.
Looking For Joy And Connection
●You don't have to do anything with it. Instead, we must experience it.
●When you realize the experience, you experience an enlightened mind.
Defining Ego
●The ego is the negative voice inside your head. It is a false perception of who you are.
●“Ego” is just a word for mind, for thinking and the images that come with it.
●Questioning the ego resolves our pessimistic self-talk.
●As we learn to separate ourselves from it, we begin to find peace.
What is Earth School?
●The ego finds it unnecessary to rest and identify the inner wisdom of the heart.
●Earth school is an opportunity to wake up to reality and find our true nature.
●We can never have the world back, and there is no need to do so. The present moment meets all our needs.
●The people who hurt us are our Earth school teachers.
●Judge the people who scorned you and put your thoughts on a piece of paper.
“Is It True?”
●“Is it true?” is one of the four questions Byron came up with to free ourselves from negative thoughts.
●Be still and ask yourself if what you feel is the truth.
●Don’t believe whatever the ego tells you.
●Your mind ends in a question mark. You feel those emotions, and you don't even know what you're feeling.
Love Can’t Be Taught
●Love can’t be taught. It can only be lived.
●Our Earth teachers could lead us to life lessons we missed.
●Self-inquiry wakes us up from our fears and blindness. When we practice self-inquiry, we become awake and connected.
Hope For The Future
●Byron hopes that people understand there’s a way out of our misery.
●We don’t need to wait for others to help us.
●Living a life of inquiry shifts our identity and makes life worth living.
Reason For Deteriorating Mental Health
●People’s mental health is deteriorating because of the current turbulent times.
●Fear is a result of an unquestioned mind.
How Byron Takes Care of Herself
●Before discovering self-inquiry, Byron was depressed and had a difficult time getting out of bed.
●When times are tough, observe what you think and believe.
●There is nothing that could keep Byron down because nothing is going on except for stillness.
How Byron Feels Radically Loved
●Byron says she loves everything she thinks.
5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode
[6:06] “We discover The Work is really inside of us. We discover it, and we pass it on through our kindness and wisdom.”
[17:38] “I would say to people who fear, you don't have to do anything with it. It's just something to realize.”
[30:04] “[Love is] not something we can teach. It can only be lived.”
[31:53] “...understand that there's a way out. We don't have to wait for anyone else to give it to us.”
[33:52] “Fear is an unquestioned mind.”
About Byron
Byron Katie is a world-renowned author and speaker. Her life mission is to end people’s suffering by teaching the powerful process of self-inquiry or also known as The Work. Her method has helped millions of people find freedom and live their authentic life.
Apart from this, she founded The School for The Work and Turnaround House. Unlike traditional schools, these workshops teach participants to unlearn things to create lasting life transformation.
Byron is also a bestselling author. She became well-known for writing: Loving What Is, I Need Your Love—Is That True?, and A Thousand Names for Joy. But these are just the tip of the iceberg! Byron authored numerous self-help and children's books to help people of all ages take charge of their happiness.
To know more about Byron, you can visit her website and get free materials, audio, and video clips. You can also connect with her through Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram.
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Dec 8, 2021
It’s not easy to make habits stick. Oftentimes, you might find yourself backsliding and ending up right where you started. But whether or not you’re aware of it, you probably have some habits hindering you from being successful — and those are habits that need to be broken.
In this episode, New York Times bestselling author Jen Sincero discusses how you can set boundaries and create good habits that will serve you and others. She explains how social media has impeded our ability to cherish moments and connections. Finally, she also shares how you can honor your feelings and get rid of people-pleasing habits.
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Jen’s Pandemic Experience
●Jen is still figuring things out in 2021, but she’s had many silver linings, too.
●Being intentional about slowing down has been a gift to her during the pandemic, making her feel empowered.
●The pandemic has been an existential opportunity for her.
Honoring Your Feelings
●Your experience is yours regardless of what’s happening to others.
●As a human being, you’ll have challenges and you don’t need to discredit any negative feelings.
●It’s important to be aware and grateful for your blessings.
Making New Habits Stick
●She did a 21-day course in the book, but the more she did research and paid attention to her own life and habits, she realized that there’s no specific amount of time to make new habits stick.
●It took her several tries to quit smoking until she finally did.
●Chunking things down into bite-sized actions makes it easier.
The Importance of Boundaries
●Not having good boundaries is exhausting because you end up doing stuff you don’t want to do, which builds up resentment.
●Healthy, clear boundaries are a gift to everyone.
●Shifting to a perception of a healthy boundary as something positive is the first step.
Setting Boundaries in Social Media
●She didn’t grow up with social media so she’s not as invested in it.
●Just like any other boundary or habit, specifics are the key to freedom.
●Don’t dwell too much on the negative stuff because people’s opinions and reactions about you are really about themselves.
Minimizing Social Media Use
●Strictly set up times when you’re allowed to look at your phone.
●Intentionally doing something helps break the initial habit.
●Our gadgets are always interrupting us and stopping us from cherishing moments where we’re able to be with others.
Staying Present
●Being present for anybody is definitely a challenge because we’re all busy, but it all boils down to intention.
●Just do your best and try not to beat yourself up.
●Writing notes to yourself, using visual cues, and taking a deep breath is helpful.
How People Pleasers Can Set Boundaries
●In every single to-do list, consider if it brings you joy or if you want to do it.
●Connect with your feelings.
●You’re not serving anyone if you’re doing something you don’t want to do, especially if it’s just to please people.
Jen’s Creativity and Mental Well-being
●Jen loves moving and new experiences.
●She’s lived in big cities a lot and she loves that energy, but she also loves hiking and nature so she loved living in the city and vacationing in nature.
●The pandemic impacted her creativity and well-being because she needs the vibrancy and energy of a city and she needs to travel.
How Jen Feels About Her Book
●Jen is proud of having the discipline to write something because writing is a challenge.
●She’s not particularly proud of her book’s success and while she thinks she did a good job on her book, she believes it’s mostly awesome timing.
5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode
[5:43] “You’re still a human being, and you still have your challenges and your highs and your lows and all that. So it doesn’t mean every time you have a “negative feeling” or “thought”, you need to discredit it because you are so charmed.”

[8:08] “Whatever your habit is, if you just take it one little piece at a time, instead of overwhelming yourself with how long it’s going to take and or how much you have to do, you’ll be so much more successful.”

[19:27] “... it’s so rare, especially now that you get one on one with people or you’re in a room with another human and I want to cherish that, you know, togetherness and not be always over here [on my phone].”

[21:18] “... staying present for anybody is really a challenge because we are all being pulled in so many directions. And again, it’s just that intention, you know, and just doing your best with it and not beating yourself up.”

[23:02] “... you’re not serving them if you’re doing it and you do not want to do it. And if you’re doing it just to please them and be liked, that’s not a good reason.”
Jen Sincero is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, speaker and motivational cattle prod who’s helped countless people transform their lives with her products, seminars, and books. Her #1 New York Times bestseller, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, has sold over 5 million copies worldwide.
As a highly sought-after speaker, she has shared her signature brand of motivational comedy with everyone from women entrepreneurs to multinational corporations. Her works have appeared in a variety of media outlets such as the New York Times, Success Magazine, Forbes, Cosmo, and so much more. Her other books include You Are a Badass Every Day, Don’t Sleep With Your Drummer, The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks, and Badass Habits.
If you wish to connect with Jen, you may check out her website or URA’s website.
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Dec 3, 2021
Gaining Ferocious Courage to Tell the Truth with Dr. Jacqui Lewis
It’s not easy to tell the truth—it takes ferocious courage to say the things that need to be heard. But when we do get the knack of expressing our truths, we invite others to practice rule-breaking kindness.

Dr. Jacqui Lewis joins us to share the key to gaining the courage to tell the truth. We also talk about extending compassion to ourselves and others in this time of collective grief, and how to deal with resentment. The answer lies in love—fierce love for yourself and everyone else.
If you want to become a truth warrior and create a kinder world, make sure to tune in to this episode.

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Episode Highlights
When Someone Says ‘You Need to Calm Down’
●It’s easy to get even more inflamed when someone tells you to calm down.
●However, what that often means is they are the ones who need to calm down. They don’t know how to handle your energy, so they’re crying out for help.
●Instead of saying ‘I can see you’re upset’ or ‘You need to calm down,’ it’s better to say ‘I hear you, I can feel how upset you are, so I’m going to take a step back.’
●This statement is more empathetic and allows you to neutralize a heated situation.
Ferocious Courage to Tell the Truth
●Jacqui’s book is subtitled: ‘A bold path to ferocious courage and rule-breaking kindness that can heal the world.’
●She came up with this statement, after realizing how ferociously courageous it was to tell the truth about herself and confront her story.
●This ferocious courage to tell the truth transcends into rule-breaking kindness.
How to Confront Someone with Your Truth
●If we want to tell the truth and have it go well, we’ll have to wire ourselves with ‘I’ statements.
●Our feelings are facts. So, no one’s going to be defensive about your feelings.
●Also, you have to let go of the outcome after you tell the truth. You can’t manage how others will react—you can only handle your dynamics.
Modelling Truth-Telling
●Jacqui envisions a world where we raise children to be truth warriors.
●It’s hard to tell the truth, but it’s necessary to prevent violence.
Hard and Fierce Love
●This type of love takes risks and makes your head hurt.
●It applies to having tough but necessary conversations.
●When we fiercely love ourselves, we are less brittle, competitive, and jealous.
Practicing Fierce Love Even Amidst Grief
●We are at a time where to be human in the world is to be in a state of grief.
●Grief causes us to be angry, sad, or brittle. We tend to do things we don’t normally do when we are grieving.
●So, we should exercise a bit more compassion and a bit less judgment towards ourselves and others.
Being Curious About Others’ Truths
●Every person in the world has their own interior life that you’re simply bumping into. Their experience is likely not about you, but it’s real for them.
●So, it’s crucial not to dismiss their truths, but to explore them.
●We’re on our separate journeys, and the person you’re interacting with may not be at the same place as you.
●What’s important is to keep modeling the behavior you hope for.
Dealing with Resentment
●Resentment stems from the gap between what you hope for and what is.
●The best way to fill this gap is self-love.
●If we exercise our self-love muscles, we can be there for ourselves when other people fail us.
How Dr. Jacqui Feels Radically Loved
●Dr. Jacqui feels radically loved by her source, God.
●She believes that God will never leave her, and she is peaceful that she has somebody with her all the time.
●She also emphasizes the radical love she feels from her family.
5 Powerful Quotes from this Episode
[3:24] “When we are in that threat place, that danger place, ‘Calm down’ inflames; ‘I can hear you, I can feel you, I can see you’ is empathy.”
[6:00] “Ferocious courage is to just show ourselves to each other, our needs, our wants, our desires, our fears, our dreams, our hopes, our passion, our sensuality.”
[13:09] “We can build bridges, we can create a deeper understanding by coming from a state of love and kindness.”
[22:59] “We just don't have to be so strung out about the other person's stuff, because it's their stuff, not yours.”
[30:44] “That's resentment: the gap between what I hoped for and what is. So how do you fill that gap?”
About Dr. Jacqui
Dr. Jacqui J. Lewis is the founder of The Middle Project and The Middle Church Group. They regularly host annual conferences to train potential leaders to combat racism, bigotry, and poverty. She was ordained in the Presbyterian church and was the first woman to become a senior minister in the Collegiate Church.
Dr. Jacqui started her career in the corporate world but found her way back to serving God in churches. In addition to being a holder of many postgraduate degrees, she is an author of numerous books.
If you want to connect with Dr. Jacqui, you may visit her website. You can also browse the church she co-founded with her husband at The Middle Church website.
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