I’ve got something special for you this week! Remember Henry Ammar, Founder of MakeItHappen.Life, from episode 53? We had an amazing episode on purpose and I’m still hearing about how much you enjoyed it.   For this episode, I decided to record an everyday conversation I had with Henry. We usually have these kinds of conversations off the record, but I wanted you to be able to join us and find value if you choose. Henry is a dear friend of mine and I’m grateful to him for letting me record our conversation.   We talk about investing your time in a way that serves your mission, focusing on your own personal growth, being spiritual and making money, and thriving in challenging experiences.   Radically Purposeful Henry   Asking, ‘What am I doing with my time today and why is it important?’ Functioning in a high frequency place to serve so much better Uncovering self-sabotage to make a greater impact   Radically Inspired Clarity   Our self-growth is one of the greatest things we can invest in to support our mission and the people we serve. Sometimes you have to answer the call even though it’s scary. Ask yourself, ‘What does your soul want that your mind doesn’t?’   Henry Ammar Answers…   What do you do when you feel like you’re over-invested in one thing that gets in the way of everything else you have planned? What is your take on the connection between spirituality and money?   Radically Loved Quotes   “Everybody has a mission. If you don’t have a goal, your goal is to figure out what your goal is.”   “The greatest investments we can make are in ourselves.”   “Hopefully, you don’t recognize me in a year because I’ve changed so much.”   “What could you do with your heart and your mindset if you had an abundance of resources at your disposal?”   A Little More About Our Guest   Henry Ammar, founder and CEO of MakeItHappen.Life, is an award-winning empowerment coach, an impact entrepreneur, a creative, and a visionary leader with in-depth experience in the personal development, business leadership, entertainment, real estate, and education industries. His most recent brainchild, MakeItHappen.Life, was created to inspire and give energetic and real-world strategies that lead to an exhilarating, authentic life full of empowerment and success. Henry is a Certified Life Transformation Coach, Neuro-Linguistic Life Coach, TimeLine Coach & Trauma Release Specialist, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki I & II, and a recipient of top leadership and life coaching awards. Henry is a member of the Forbes Coaches Council and has been published in Forbes. www.makeithappen.life/p/bali

Alisa Vitti is functional nutritionist, women’s hormone expert, best-selling author, and founder of FloLiving.com. She’s also known as the hormone whisperer. Alisa has opened up the conversation about menstruation while helping and inspiring women to tap into their inner wisdom and thrive all month long.   I’m so excited to share this conversation with you. This is something that we as women don’t talk about enough. I learned so much from Alisa about myself and my body. Yes, we talked about periods. I never realized how much information there is out there to help us understand our bodies more until this conversation.   Alisa has so many tips for us on using the tools around us to feel our best. She shares her journey of working through hormone issues herself, how our food screws our endocrine function, and how we can live our optimal health by understanding our hormones.   Radically FLO Alisa   Seeing a major gap in healthcare for hormone issues and searching for answers Getting diagnosed with PCOS at a young age and healing herself Making TV history by simulating menstrual blood on Dr. Oz   Radically Inspired Clarity   Your food has to change each week of your cycle because your hormones are changing. Understand what’s going on in your hormones is the fastest way for you to be free.   Alisa Vitti Answers…   What kind of tests can we ask our doctor for to understand our bodies better? What can we do to start owning our female health? What are your thoughts on IUD and similar birth control methods?   Radically Loved Quotes   “If you’re walking around with the belief that you should be eating the ‘perfect diet’ every single day, you are greatly misled. All dietary theory is predicated on the male hormonal pattern.”   “If you want to stifle the creative power of half the population, you do that by not giving them the roadmap to optimizing their health.”   “There is no destination with health. There is a constant evolution. You need to be in a dynamic, compassionate relationship with your body throughout your life.”   “None of those diets or exercise programs are predicated on female biology. You must sync with your cycle to be your healthiest self”   A Little More About Our Guest   Alisa built FLO Living as a virtual online health center to help women solve their hormonal symptoms from anywhere in the world. She published a book called WomanCode, which has been in the Top 50 best selling women’s health books of all time since it was published. Alisa is a graduate of Johns Hopkins University and the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. She has a web series on Lifetime, and has been a regular contributor to CBS, Fox, Shape, Women’s Health, MindBodyGreen, and The Huffington Post. She also writes Yahoo Health’s Hormone Whisperer column. www.floliving.com  

The two universal laws of impermanence are uncertainty and unpredictability. When life changes unexpectedly, we can often feel off balance, insecure, and unclear of what really matters and/or what to do next. This is normal. What can support us to reclaim our life and tap into our internal wisdom is re-asserting our strength of mind and heart. Mindfulness and compassion are two important qualities that increase our resilience. At this pivotal time in our world, we need to cultivate both. Compassion in action has the ability to heal and transform oneself and thus the world into a place that takes the welfare of all beings into consideration. How do I give away my power? When I listen to the critical and judgmental thoughts that disempower my worth, potential, and abilities. When I am going too fast. When I say yes, when I really mean no, or not yet. When I don’t listen to my feelings and needs. When I don’t stick up for myself and share my feelings and needs with others. When I am not taking good care of myself with exercise, meditation, nutrition, connection, sleep, self-care, etc. How do I feel empowered? When I slow down. When I ask for support. When I really listen and then take care and support my feelings and needs in action. When I share my truth in a kind and skillful way. When I claim my inherent good worth, kindness, and competence in the world. When I surround myself with people who love and accept me for me. When I spend time in nature. When I engage in healthy practices that nourish my mind, body, and heart like exercise, sleep, healthy food, connection, play, learning, and meditation. When I feel engaged in a community or group with a shared goal or intention. When I feel on purpose in my life. When I am creating. When I am helping others.

Jesse Golden is a devoted mother, model, Hatha yoga teacher, holistic health practitioner, and creator of The Golden Secrets. She has used her multifaceted career as a platform to inspire and empower people all over the world.   Her new book, The Golden Secrets to Optimal Health, offers practical ways to achieve longevity, happiness, and conscious living. Rooted in ancient wisdom and practiced in real life, Jesse provides an abundance of information, healing recipes, empowering words, and inspiring pictures to help you attain optimal health.   Jesse is such an incredible person, both inside and out. We had the best time drinking tea and talking about parenting, the process of writing her book, her words of wisdom and so much more goodness.     Radically Gold Jesse   Being diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis and continuing to thrive Going through yoga teacher training with her diagnosis Inspiring people to practice yoga with social media   Radically Inspired Clarity   You have to train your brain to focus, think positive thoughts, and breathe. No matter what cards you’re dealt, you can survive and thrive by looking at the positive.   Jesse Golden Answers…   How did yoga as a philosophy bring more yoga and peace into your life? What advice do you have if we’re the only healthy ones in our home? How can we have connection in our digital-filled world?   Radically Loved Quotes   “A lot of my healing is noticing the patterns. I’m constantly checking in with myself. Meditation is like breathing to me.”   “That’s the beauty of yoga, If you keep going, it will bring you to the present moment and that translates to your life.”   “Anyone can offer you secrets or tools, you have to figure out what’s going to work for you.”   “Motherhood was the most primal, organic thing I’ve ever experienced.”   A Little More About Our Guest   Through her many life challenges, including continuing to thrive with the debilitating disease, Rheumatoid Arthritis, Jesse has harnessed many holistic, natural remedies to help her along the way. Aromatherapy is one of those tools and has played a huge role in her quest for Optimal health. She is excited to share her Golden Secrets with you. Products that she personally developed and worn for years that are synonymous with who she is. Jesse’s mission is to inspire and empower others to align with their own knowingness and Mother nature herself so that they can live a purposeful, full life and of course #BeGolden www.thegoldensecretsoil.com/  

If you, too, have struggled with a toxic relationship, I hope this little instruction manual will help you. 1. Knowledge that you are in a difficult situation.. Your choices here are fairly limited, and, strangely, acceptance is always the best choice. You can judge and criticize the other person, but that will probably make you feel tense and lonely. Alternately, you could nurse your anxiety and despair that you’ll never be able to get along with them, which will make you feel stressed and sad. You can definitely deny their existence or pretend that they aren’t bothering you. You can block their texts and emails, and avoid every situation where they’ll turn up. These are all tactics of resistance, and they won’t protect you. Ironically, these tactics will allow the other person to further embed themselves into your psyche. What does work is to accept that your relationship with them is super hard, and also that you are trying to make it less hard. This gentle acceptance does not mean that you are resigned to a life of misery, or that the situation will never get better. Maybe it will—and maybe it won’t. Accepting the reality of a difficult relationship allows us to soften. And this softening will open the door to your own compassion and wisdom.   Trust me: You are going to need those things.   2. The Person will Blame you for their Emotions  This is not true. You are not responsible for their emotions. You never have been, and you never will be. Don’t take responsibility for their suffering; if you do, they will never have the opportunity to take responsibility for themselves.

Layla Fanucci is an artist and entrepreneur, renowned for her signature style of cityscape paintings. She exhibits her work at a number of impressive galleries and museums around the world, including The Louvre in Paris.   When Layla discovered her true calling, it was the only drive she needed to propel her forward in her career. Her success story was so pivotal to me and my journey. I’ve spoken with her daughter, Michelle Fanucci, on the podcast before and talked about how Layla’s story inspired me to make a huge change in my life.   In this episode, we talk about how Layla got to where she is today, her keys to success, and learning what our true calling is. This has been one of my favorite interviews, enjoy!     Radically Purposeful Layla   Nurturing her artistry and dedicating herself to painting 200 paintings in 2 years Figuring out how to make art a business by focusing on each 50/50 Setting a goal to make as much as she did teaching or go back to her job   Radically Inspired Clarity   You have to focus on the one thing you love to make it happen. It takes devotion in order to succeed in your passion. You don’t have just one talent. In 10 years you might find another and nurture that. Later, you might find another. Nurture what you love and it will grow. Be very clear about what you really love to do. Being clear on that is the biggest step because then you can take steps to make it happen.   Layla’s Keys for Success   1) Find your passion 2) Have a plan 3) Work really hard 4) Focus on your goals 5) Give back    Layla Fanucci Answers…   How can you be an artist and be good at business? What if I don’t have anything I love to do? What’s the best advice you can give about following a passion?   Radically Loved Quotes   “When you follow your passion and you work really hard, the money follows.”   “Really dedicate your time to what you love to do. Your passion is nurtured and then you can climb up that ladder.”   “If you don’t believe in it, it’s probably not going to go far.”   “You can do anything, but no one’s going to give it to you. You’ve got to make it happen.”   A Little More About Our Guest   Driven by a desire to evoke her experience of the city, she achieves remarkable harmony in these resonant works. A musician before becoming a painter, she captures the rhythm of the great metropolis, the lyrical splendor of its skies and the cacophony of its streets. Looking at the scenes, one understands why people return time after time to theses places, like musical phrases we never tire of hearing, always finding something new in them. In Fanucci's dream like paintings, the relationships of building, massed like blocks, transmit the grandeur and intensity of the urban environment, framing the crowds that swarm below them. Dense, deeply felt, intriguing and masterfully painted, her cityscapes draw us in because of the passion in which they were created. www.laylafanucci.com/    

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Black Girl In Om promotes holistic wellness and inner beauty for women of color. Founders Lauren and Deun encourage self-care, self-love, and self-empowerment for communities of color. I’ve been listening to their podcast and I literally binged the whole first season.    Deun and Lauren are the medicine we need right now. On Black Girl in Om they learn and share wellness practices with one another, and through this work cultivate richer understandings of what it means to be healthy and beautiful from the inside out.   I was able to meet these two incredible ladies while I was in Chicago and have a radiant conversation with them about creating space for women of color in the wellness world.   Radically REAL Lauren and Deun   Turning to yoga to de-stress and not seeing many women of color Coming from the south and discovering health and wellness Creating images to show black women in places they haven’t been Making a sacred and special space within yoga and meditation   Radically Inspired Clarity   If you aren’t proactive about creating an inclusive environment, it’s not going to be inclusive. It’s so important to set the example of openness and acceptance.   Lauren and Deun Answer…   Why is there such a disparity in representation of women in color in yoga? How do we change the belief that certain people are excluded from wellness? How do you stay grounded through change and transition?   Radically Loved Quotes   “There are things that everybody can do to make people of all different backgrounds feel included. That’s what yoga is.”   “When there’s a black woman who’s able to look at herself in om, it’s just this place of serenity. I would want anyone to experience that.”   “Keeping my eyes on the right thing helps me to always walk in my purpose.”   “Don’t dwell when there’s a missed opportunity. It wasn’t for you.”   A Little More About Our Guests   Lauren Ash is a multifaceted creative entrepreneur and visionary most-recognized for her leadership prioritizing black women in the wellness and editorial fields. As the Founder and Creative Director of Black Girl In Om, she promotes holistic wellness for women of color through BGIO’s online publication, wellness sessions, podcast, creative agency, and award-winning social media platforms. www.blackgirlinom.com/  Deun Ivory is a Chicago-based creative entrepreneur most-recognized for her minimalist aesthetic as a photographer + illustrator.  As the Art Director for Black Girl in Om + Co-founder of Lifestyle with Ivory + Ash, she cultivates communities and experiences that promote self-care, women empowerment + affirmation for women of color. www.ivoryandashlifestyle.co

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Chase Chewning is a military veteran, health and wellness expert, host of EverForward Radio, YouTuber, and all around inspiring human. His goal is to inspire others by providing a source of inspiration and motivation through his podcast and the work he does.   I just started listening to EverForward a couple months ago and I was struck by how real and talented Chase is. He has such an incredible story from his past experiences, including a life-changing injury, his time in the military, and how he’s been able to overcome all that adversity.   In our conversation we talk about Chase’s incredible background and how it’s made him who he is today, finding your own inspiration, being brutally honest with yourself, and maintaining health relationships.     Radically Ever Forward Chase   Continuing his family’s legacy of military service as a Russian linguist Getting injured in deployment and spending a year as a patient Finding a passion in health coaching and entering wellness after the military Creating EverForward in honor of his father and propelling his legacy   Radically Inspired Clarity   Create a ‘why’. Always start with why you want to implement change or you won’t take action. You can’t continue to build new relationships and maintain current ones if you aren’t being true to yourself.   Chase Chewning Answers…   What can we do when we lack inspiration? How can we incorporate more connection into our lives? Why do people have a hard time being honest with themselves? How do you maintain a healthy relationship with your partner?   Radically Loved Quotes   “Your health and wellness is whatever you can do that keeps you happy as a person inside and out.”   “Take initiative with yourself and with the people and things that matter. Sometimes that means going the extra mile.”   “What if I am my true self? Would I be perceived the same way or would I lose followers?”   “Thank you for today. I ask for the gift of tomorrow.”   A Little More About Our Guest   Chase Chewning is an Army veteran and certified health coach. With his BS in Exercise Science, MS in Health Promotion Management and extensive knowledge of all things wellness he continues to train and coach people on a daily basis. EverForward Radio is a platform devoted to help you build a life that propels you forward. Each week, you will hear a message or an interview from the leaders of the modern industries of fitness, entrepreneurship, health and wellness, self-help, philanthropy, technology and so much more. His goal is to serve others by providing a source of inspiration and motivation through this podcast. Let this be your springboard, your catalyst, your "ever forward moment" that helps unveil your path and apply passion to purpose.   Rishi Tea Giveway:  Rishi Matcha Essetials Giveaway on “Radically Loved Radio” iTunes Top Rated Yoga + Health Podcast! Giveaway: Post a picture of what your  tea ritual looks like and tag me @rosiacosta and @rishitea using the hashtag #radicallylovedrishi to enter for a chance to win an entire Rishi Matcha Essentials Kit! 

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Elena Brower is an author, yoga teacher, and speaker. She is influenced by several yoga traditions and recognized internationally for her expertise in offering practices for approaching our world with realistic reverence. She is the author of Art of Attention, a yoga workbook that has been translated into six languages and the creator of Teach.yoga, a virtual home for yoga teachers worldwide. Currently, she’s working on her latest book, Practice You, which will be released in fall 2017.   This incredible woman is one of my mentors and dear friends. Elena and her husband, James, have an inspiring approach to life and their relationship that I am excited to share with you. I’ve been getting a lot of questions about relationships and finding a partner, and I’m thrilled to have Elena and James on to answer your questions about dating in the digital age, looking for perfection, and manifesting your partner.     Radically Wise Elena & James   Writing dating profiles to help friends find love Recognizing that porn undermines the sanctity of women Creating a thank you note to a future partner   Radically Inspired Clarity   If you focus on the person with whom you are meant to be with so intently and you put yourself in situations to find that person, you are most likely to find that person when you’re clearly focused on their qualities. To create a relationship, first limit your exposure to porn and focus on your capacity to generation vibration and resonance in yourself.   Elena & James Answer…   How does the pace of today’s relationships affect intimacy? What should you do if the sex sucks? What do you need to do first to develop a serious relationship?   Radically Loved Quotes   “Even in the ideal lover there are things that I would get hung up about, but there’s beauty in working through that.”   “We can manifest anything if we design it properly. If we know what we want, we can recognize it.”   “Every single person out there is a human being with potential. Your man or woman is there. Just have faith in it.”   “Love yourself so much that you don’t even need another person. The right person will be able to tell that you love yourself and want to know more.”   A Little More About Our Guest   Art of Attention has been ranked number one for book design in the States, Germany and France, and has now been translated into six languages. The accompanying Art of Attention Yoga Healing Cards, designed by Erica Jago, now in their second printing, are being used in more than fifty countries for divination and daily inspiration. Elena's next book, Practice You, will be released Fall 2017 by Sounds True.Elena is also an executive producer of On Meditation: Documenting the Inner Journey, a film that intimately explores meditation experiences. She's contributed to the Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, and Yoga Journal, and has been featured in the New York Times and on major network news channels.   Rishi Tea Giveway:  Rishi Matcha Essetials Giveaway on “Radically Loved Radio” iTunes Top Rated Yoga + Health Podcast! Giveaway: Post a picture of what your  tea ritual looks like and tag me @rosiacosta and @rishitea using the hashtag #radicallylovedrishi to enter for a chance to win an entire Rishi Matcha Essentials Kit!         

Do the Mindful Breathing Meditation and Answer the following questions.  What is the feeling tone of this experience (positive, negative, or neutral)? What event triggered this difficult experience? Why was that event triggering to me? Have similar events triggered me before? What story am I telling myself about these feelings? What story are these feelings telling me? What alternative stories exist for these difficult feelings? How realistic is the story I am telling myself? What bodily sensations are connected to this experience?   Rishi Tea Giveway:  Rishi Matcha Essetials Giveaway on “Radically Loved Radio” iTunes Top Rated Yoga + Health Podcast! Giveaway: Post a picture of what your  tea ritual looks like and tag me @rosiacosta and @rishitea using the hashtag #radicallylovedrishi to enter for a chance to win an entire Rishi Matcha Essentials Kit!       

Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford, Gay served as professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving (co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks), both used as a primary text in universities around the world.   I’m thrilled to have the opportunity and privilege to talk with Gay. On this episode, he shares how we can each find our own zone of genius, what we can do to master our potential, and how to improve our relationships with others.     Radically Conscious Gay   Creating The Big Leap, the ‘bible of coaching and self-development’ Discovering the connection between the body and our potential Accessing creative power by removing criticism and blame   Radically Inspired Clarity   The most important question to ask yourself to find your zone of genius is, what do I most love to do? You have to be on a quest for who you truly are. Whatever time you spend putting on a facade is time you’re getting off track with who you really are.   Gay Hendricks Answers…   Do we have only one encompassing upper limit problem or do they change overtime? How is the authenticity of our relationships changing with digital media? What is the difference between settling or compromise?   Radically Loved Quotes   “No matter who you are, you have a zone of genius in you and once you tap into that, it makes your success come alive.”   “Many people are in pain because they aren’t expressing their full potential.”   “In a relationship, you need to learn how to express the truth about how you’re feeling.”   “Get out of the energy of the negative and put that energy in what you really want and how can I make that happen in a creative way.”   A Little More About Our Guest   Gay has offered seminars worldwide including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. In addition to his work with The Hendricks Institute, Gay is currently continuing his new mystery series that began with The First Rule Of Ten.  In 2003, Gay co-founded The Spiritual Cinema Circle,which distributes inspirational movies and conscious entertainment to subscribers in 70+ countries. Over the past 24 years of their relationship, Gay and Kathlyn have raised two children, accumulated a million frequent flyer miles and appeared on more than 500 radio and television programs. Learn more at www.hendricks.com and www.foundationforconsciousliving.com     Rishi Tea Giveway:  Rishi Matcha Essetials Giveaway on “Radically Loved Radio” iTunes Top Rated Yoga + Health Podcast! Giveaway: Post a picture of what your  tea ritual looks like and tag me @rosiacosta and @rishitea using the hashtag #radicallylovedrishi to enter for a chance to win an entire Rishi Matcha Essentials Kit! 

Broaden Your Peripheral Vision: Years ago, while working as a personal assistant to a Celebrity I was often so troubled at the fact that I spent so much of my time worrying about things that were out of my control because I wanted to be the BEST at my job until I finally burnt myself out. I blamed it on the hours and my desire to want to finish my degree and would often become so resentful at the fact that I wasn’t doing what I wanted to do. I did end up quitting, but in hindsight I wish that I had instead just taken some time off. Sometimes that’s all we need, just a little bit of time to reflect, a little bit of space and then maybe flush things out from a place of less constraint. I would say if your feeling locked in, let yourself take that vacation time, or even just a home retreat so that you can give your body and mind some time to look at the big picture. Happiness Isn’t Out There, It’s already In HERE: When was the last time you were happy? Now, when was the last time you were happy at Work? What would you love to be doing with your time and your life RIGHT NOW? If the answer looks completely contrary to what you are doing right now that’s totally fine, but it might. If you’re having a hard time picturing what you want to do or what you would “like” to do when you grow up, think about what you don’t want to do. This may be a small clue in the puzzle of what is really going on. Ask and You Shall Receive: Once I finally got the courage to quit my job, I realized all of sudden I had no problem expressing why I was feeling the way I was. “Why do we wait until that very last day to tell the truth? It’s like when we argue with a partner, when we are in it all of a sudden the shit that ‘kind of’ bothered you last week because the straw that breaks the camels back! Many people assume their bosses know what they want and are ignoring them, but it’s just as likely that everyone’s caught up in their own little worlds. I have found this to be true more often then not. Often time the thigns that lead to a break are things that had never been brought up in the relationship to begin with. If you happen to be in this position, consider saying something. Suggest a new project that you want to work on or more money, a different schedule, a vacation? If the alternative here is to quit, what do you have to lose? You Have To Do The Work: Sometimes finding what truly drives you or what you want to do in life is a moving target. The constant change of our own nature can sometimes add to this stress of trying to find the “ONE” thing that’s going to fix all of our problems and make us so happy to wake up every morning. Do you think the guy that has to clear out the sewage pipes when they get clogged up wakes up every morning and can’t wait to clean out shit? No, (well at least my friend who actually has this job doesn’t) but he does love the fact that he can provide for his 3 kids and help take care of his father. That wakes him up in the best mood, and he can just go on his marry way and do what he needs to do. Our job in life doesn’t “just” require us to “show up” we HAVE to do the work. Stop using excuses to why you “can’t” and start thinking about all the ways YOU CAN, any thread of small effort.. is STILL EFFORT. Change Only Happens when there is Change: This can often really be the only thing that stands in the way between us and our happiness and contentment in what we do. Change what you can, mostly.. what you have control over. The first on that list would be… your ATTITUDE. Let’s just look at the situation for a moment, most of you reading this, if you are relating to what I’m saying here, can relate to the fact that your in the situation your in… because you put yourself there. So get into it… Rishi Tea Giveway:  Rishi Matcha Essetials Giveaway on “Radically Loved Radio” iTunes Top Rated Yoga + Health Podcast! Giveaway: Post a picture of what your  tea ritual looks like and tag me @rosiacosta and @rishitea using the hashtag #radicallylovedrishi to enter for a chance to win an entire Rishi Matcha Essentials Kit!     

Shawn Stevenson is considered to be one of the most talented nutritionists in the country. His mission is to help you feel great and find fulfillment in your life and do it in the healthiest way possible.   Shawn is a bestselling author and creator of The Model Health Show. He has a very inspiring story and he’s so rich with insight and information I’m honored to have him as a guest.   We talk about Shawn’s background and the challenging journey he’s had. He shares with us his transformational mindset, advice on how to let go of negativity, and tips on becoming who you want to be.     Radically Positive Shawn   Going from playing as an athlete to experiencing sciatic nerve pain Helping physicians work with patients more effectively Deciding to wake up and get well to change his health   Radically Inspired Clarity   Embrace the hard times. See the great opportunity that’s there. There’s something in this for you. The ego can be healthy. We have to have a perception of who we are and who we want to be in the world.   Shawn Stevenson Answers…   What is the most important thing that needs to happen for us to have a moment of clarity? What would you tell someone who is trying to focus more on gratitude? Why do people make the same mistakes?     Radically Loved Quotes   “When you make a decision to do something, that’s the end of the story. There’s nothing else.”   “Rock bottom is a great place. It’s an emotional opening.”   “Awareness trumps everything. The things I’m doing are because this is who I think I am. This is what I think I deserve.”   “If you have this idea that you’re unlovable, I promise you that’s untrue.”   A Little More About Our Guest    A graduate of The University of Missouri – St. Louis, Shawn studied business, biology, and kinesiology, and went on to be the founder of Advanced Integrative Health Alliance, a company that provides wellness services for individuals and organizations worldwide. Shawn has been featured in Entrepreneur magazine, Men’s Health magazine, ESPN, FOX News, and many other major media outlets. He is also a frequent keynote speaker for numerous organizations, universities, and conferences. To learn more about Shawn visit www.TheModelHealthShow.com   Rishi Tea Giveway:  Rishi Matcha Essetials Giveaway on “Radically Loved Radio” iTunes Top Rated Yoga + Health Podcast! Giveaway: Post a picture of what your  tea ritual looks like and tag me @rosiacosta and @rishitea using the hashtag #radicallylovedrishi to enter for a chance to win an entire Rishi Matcha Essentials Kit!     

 If your negative thoughts are hurting your outlook, here are some positivity-grabbing tips to consider: Be a detective. Consider the evidence. For instance, if you interviewed for a job and are certain you failed at your first impression, consider the evidence. Were you polite, on time, and presentable? Were you informative and appropriate? Did your skill set seem to match what they were looking for? If so, congratulations. You interviewed well and it is now in someone else’s hands. Allowing negativity to run rampant is not helping, and it won’t prepare you for a second interview. Consider alternatives. You’ve interviewed and they haven’t responded yet. Consider the possibilities: they are still interviewing candidates, they are awaiting approval to hire you, they are never going to call you because your interview was awful, and they may call tomorrow. Each possibility has its own voice and perspective, some negative and some positive. Learning to articulate alternatives helps to mold possible positive thoughts. Let it go. Negative thoughts are just thoughts; they can come and go. Positivity is a choice. What if you itemized all of your negative thoughts on a piece of paper and then burned the paper? What would be left in your mind? Perhaps the space negativity leaves behind can allow positivity to creep in and settle. Rishi Tea Giveway:  Rishi Matcha Essetials Giveaway on “Radically Loved Radio” iTunes Top Rated Yoga + Health Podcast! Giveaway: Post a picture of what your  tea ritual looks like and tag me @rosiacosta and @rishitea using the hashtag #radicallylovedrishi to enter for a chance to win an entire Rishi Matcha Essentials Kit!   

Katie Dalebout curates inspired wisdom that guides people to go deep and sift through the thoughts clouding their minds. She’s the incredible host of the podcast Let It Out, where she helps people develop a positive image of their bodies by embracing their creativity and personality outside of their physicality.   Her best-selling book, Let It Out: A Journey Through Journaling, is an incredible tool for anyone looking for clarity in their life. I am so inspired by Katie. She has an extensive resume of being a beautiful light in this world and helping people by giving them tools to express our gifts.   We talk a lot about Katie’s background and her journey into wellness and positive body image. Katie shares her insights on how to choose your thoughts, growing into yourself, what yoga’s done for her, and the environment in Detroit.   Radically Self-Loved Katie   Falling in love with a yoga studio and diving into wellness Coming up against negative body image and getting addicted to compliments Loosening her grip on perfection and finding a new perspective on health Being raw and real for the first time with a journal   Radically Inspired Clarity   We think our thoughts on repeat day after day. If you can get that out of your head and onto the page, you can decide what to listen to and what you can let go. Know yourself enough to know why you’re feeling a certain way and what you can do to feel better.   Katie Dalebout Answers…   What are the things that keep you in a grounded space? How has yoga influenced your life? How has Detriot changed in the last several years?     Radically Loved Quotes   “The way our bodies look isn’t really under our control and it changes all the time. That’s lovely and beautiful.”   “You’re going to grow and change. You don’t know what you don’t know. I only have the information I have right now. I’m trying to be better at being myself.”   “Life has multitudes and that’s great. We chose to be here to experience them and if we don’t, it’s boring.”   “Figure out who you are and stop trying to be whoever everyone else wants.”   A Little More About Our Guest   Katie is on a mission to share journaling tools that invoke deeper authenticity and self awareness. Through her blog, podcasts, videos, and courses, millennial blogger, speaker, and podcast host, Katie brings loads of clarity and creativity. She’s the author of the Amazon best-selling book, Let It Out: A Journey Through Journaling (Hay House, 2016). She’s a contributor to Hello Giggles, Refinery29, and Mind Body Green and she hosts the podcast, Let it Out, which attracted wellness and lifestyle celebrities such as Gabrielle Bernstein, Tara Stiles, and Joe Cross in its first few episodes. www.katiedalebout.com/

  Having strong relationships is one of the predicators of wellness, happiness, and longevity. And our connections flourish when we take time to get to know ourselves, and others, better. Here are three ways to strengthen the relationships you have, and nourish the ones that might need some work: 1) Be kind Kindness is like a magnet. People like to be around others who are kind because they feel cared about and safe with them. The age-old Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would want them to do to you” still rings true today. It’s also reciprocal. When we practice being kind not only do we feel better, but we help others feel good, too. And this just increases opportunities for positive connections throughout our day, which, in turn, contributes to our own health and well-being. 2) Identify Nourishing (and Depleting) Relationships Take an inventory of your relationships to a get a sense for who’s nourishing you and who’s depleting you. See if you can spend more time with the nourishing people make stronger connections there. Try to spend a little less time with those who deplete you. This isn’t always possible, of course (ie: family members, coworkers, etc.), so in those cases, see if you can change your relationship a little bit by recognizing that those people may be dealing with some instability in their lives. Practice sending them some kind intentions reference Love + Kindness Meditation and see what comes up: “May they be happy, may they be healthy, may they feel safe, may they be balanced.” 3) Practice “Just like me” DNA research has revealed that regardless of gender, ethnicity, or race, humans are 99.9% the same.  As you go through your day and encounter someone who you think is different from you, silently say, “Just like me,” and see what you notice. You may just experience the awareness that each of us wants the same things: to feel cared for and understood, and to experience a sense of belonging.

Orly Wahba is the Author and Founder of Life Vest Inside helping people around the world incorporate kindness in their everyday lives. She’s an educator, entrepreneur, author, speaker and community activist passionate about inspiring and empowering people to be the best they can be.   Life Vest Inside is a non-profit founded to empower the masses to engage in acts of love and kindness. Life Vest Inside gained international acclaim when Orly’s award-winning film Kindness Boomerang went viral. Orly is the most inspiring, influential lightworker I’ve met in a long time.   I feel so privileged to have Orly on this podcast and share her love, light, and kindness with you. Orly graciously shared her ideas on living kindness, being kind to yourself, creating our ultimate legacy, and so much more goodness.   Radically Kind Orly   Leaving her middle school teaching job to start a kindness non-profit Making a promise to herself as a teenager that’s guided her life ever since Realizing that the more she gave, the more fulfilled she felt   Radically Inspired Clarity   When you understand your own value, you’ll be able to see the value in others. It’s easy to be kind to others, but you have to love yourself too. You can’t give it outward until you can inward. There are no superfluous people in the world. If you’re here, there’s something only you can do. Kindness is small shifts. Get inspired and make a small shift. Then, you can take ownership of kindness in your life.   Orly Wahba Answers…   How can we begin to overcome our fear of feeling like we don’t matter? What are you looking forward to in the coming months? How do you feel radically loved? Radically Loved Quotes   “It’s when we give to others that we get to see where our real value lies.”   “The common thread is kindness. Because of that we can actually rejoice because of our differences.”   “Inspiration is awesome, but if you don’t channel it properly, it will fade and you will lose it.”   “The stronger we become, the more likely we are to help someone else.”   A Little More About Our Guest Orly began her career in Kindness as a Middle School educator at the Yeshivah of Flatbush in Brooklyn, NY, teaching the children to embrace unity, build their self-esteem, and use the power they have to influence the world for good. Yearning to make a larger impact with her philanthropic work Orly founded Life Vest Inside in 2011, a non-profit organization with a mission to inspire, empower and educate people of all backgrounds to lead a life of kindness. Orly has spoken at TED and has been featured on The Today Show, CBS, NBC, Bloomberg TV, Adweek, IBTimes, Parade Magazine and many more. Orly was recently appointed as the CEO of Kindness USA, whose goal is to increase kindness perception within the US from 25% to 80% by the year 2027. Learn more at  www.lifevestinside.com and find her book at www.kindnessboomerang.com

What to do in the heat of the moment , When passive aggression emerges in the middle of a conflict, here are seven steps to take. 1. Chill out. Attempting to begin a dialogue when one or both of you are in a very negative head space will cause the person who behaves passive-aggressively to shut down or to escalate the situation. Take a minute to chill out and calm down before approaching each other and the issue 2. Talk it out. Don’t try to guess or assume you know what your partner is feeling or thinking. Instead, ask your partner how he or she feels. 3. Brainstorm. The work of being in a successful relationship takes two people. As often as possible, come up with ideas for solutions to your issues together. Make your list of options as long and as wide-ranging as possible. 4. List pros and cons. Once you’ve finished brainstorming a list of possible solutions, talk through the pros and cons of each idea on the list. 5. Win-win. The best solution is the one where both of you win the most and lose the least. 6. Execute the plan. Take your win-win solution and execute it. It may take some time to see if it works. Make a plan in advance for when you’ll come back to evaluate. 7. Evaluate. Did your solution work? If not, try one of the other solutions on your list for another trial period.

Michael Catherwood is an American radio personality, best-known as Psycho Mike for his prior work at Kevin and Bean on KROQ-FM and his current job as the co-host of Loveline with Dr. Drew. Mike has been a dear friend of mine for over a decade.   I’ve always looked up to Mike and his dedication to working on himself and his career. I’m excited to have him as a guest to share with you his story and insights.   On this episode of Radically Loved, we talk about how Michael changed his life and career perspective, what it’s like in the entertainment industry, being honest, and what’s happening with the next generation.   Radically Evolved Michael   Being consumed in an addictive lifestyle as a musician Becoming a radio guy and finding a new high Coming up against obstacles in the entertainment industry   Radically Inspired Clarity   Opportunities will come knocking on your door, but you have to create a world where you’ll be able to hear the knocking. You have to divorce yourself from what society wants you to be and really study what makes you happy and what feels fulfilling.   Michael Catherwood Answers…   How did you go from a place of feeling stuck and hopeless to creating this amazing life? Why do we have a hard time being honest with ourselves? How important is it to do things that make us feel uncomfortable?   Radically Loved Quotes   “I could’ve been disappointed that I didn’t go on to write songs, but it was a matter of shifting my perspective on life.”   “My only goal was to not be a loser. I never had any concrete idea of being a success. It was a survival mechanism.”   “Instead of running away from the fire, you have to force yourself to run toward it.”   “Identify what brings you happiness and shoot for that.”   A Little More About Our Guest   In 2003, Michael started working behind the scenes with Los Angeles radio station, KROQ. He later successfully applied for a position on the Kevin & Bean Morning Show and began his career as Psycho Mike. In 2010, Michael became the co-host of Loveline with Dr. Drew Pinsky. Find Mike on Twitter or Instagram.

1. It’s your brain.  Bad Habits is simply what our brains do. They’re designed to create neural pathways that provide the best results. So, when a desire triggers a reaction that in turn satisfies that initial urge, the brain takes note. The next time that desire arises, the brain calls up the circuitry that got the job done before. When an urge is satisfied—whether for soothing, attention, or any other response—we experience a rush of dopamine, the neurochemical associated with feeling good. After a few blasts of dopamine, we start to crave more, which then drives us to indulge in the triggering behavior, be it eating fast food, checking your phone, or lighting up a cigarette. Voila! You have a habit.   2. Will, want, won’t Recognizing bad habits —the trigger, the impulse, the brain’s learned way to satisfy that need—is just part of the process of unwinding them. There also needs to be an intention to do things differently, tied to something that deeply matters to you.   3. Remember HALT When you get clear on your want—the deeply personal reason for wanting to make a habit change (hint: “I should” isn’t one of them)—then begins the work of strengthening your ability to choose differently (aka, willpower). But as anyone who has tried to diet or commit to exercise knows, saboteurs to our will abound. This is when psychologist Christopher Willard recommends employing the acronym HALT. Hungry, Angry/Anxious, Lonely, Tired   4. Try compassion - Research shows that when we criticize ourselves, it actually short-circuits the brainpower we need to unwind old habits and adopt new ones. Criticism (self or external) causes the same fight-or-flight impulse, limiting access to the higher functions of the brain, like being able to see the bigger picture, explains life coach and mindfulness instructor Carley Hauck. “Criticism makes us feel more anxious, more depressed, and more afraid of failure.” If you regularly tell yourself you “can’t” or that you’re not enough in some way, try using a more compassionate and understanding tone instead. Once we can be compassionate in our thinking, we can figure out the next best step to take toward the change we want.    5. See it, and believe it- Mindfulness helps build the ability to resist giving in to urges that foster unhealthy habits. Visualize the circumstances that typically trigger an urge. Notice what thoughts and feelings arise in the body. See if you can identify where you feel that urge physically, but don’t engage it. Instead, relax the body and tune in to your breathing, in and out.   

Danielle LaPorte is my absolute hero. She is the high priestess of entrepreneurship, consciousness, and self-empowerment. Her new book, White Hot Truth: Clarity for Keeping it Real On Your Spiritual Path from One Seeker to Another, launches May 16, 2017 and I can honestly say that this book is literally what the world needs at this exact moment. It has changed my perspective on so many things and opened the door to discovering a new way of being.

1) Name it to tame it. Instead of denying that you’re afraid, look fear in the face. Give it a name. For me: Fear of not being or doing enough.   2) Comfort yourself. Start by exhaling deeply, which is the key to calming the nervous system.   3) Take a baby step. Break the behavior you are avoiding doing into an action step so small that it no longer feels worth resisting. I’m going to go meditate for three minutes. I know I have three minutes, and that doesn’t feel so scary, after all.