#WisdomWednesdays: Put Yourself First by Practicing Introspection and Connecting with Your Inner Child
Sometimes we get stuck in relationships where we give, give, and give but don't receive anything in return. We lose ourselves in the struggle to feel loved and appreciated. Thus, to find fulfillment in any relationship, sometimes it helps to put yourself first . You need to develop a healthy and understanding relationship with yourself proactively. After all, how you see and treat yourself mirrors how you show up with other people.
In this episode, Rosie and Tessa delve into self-inquiry in different aspects of our lives and relationships. They discuss the importance of introspection in understanding repetitive mistakes and cycles. They also talk about how developing a relationship with yourself is the foundation of any relationship. Furthermore, Rosie and Tessa tackle the power of thought and connecting to your inner child.
Do you find yourself stuck in the same repetitive cycles of relationships and mistakes that do not serve you? This episode will shed some light on the actions and changes you need to make!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Understand the role of self-inquiry in addressing repetitive cycles.
- Learn why you need to put yourself first before you can show up for others.
- Discover why you should connect with your inner child.
The Difficulty of Applying Acquired Wisdom in Life
- Part of the human experience is to make mistakes. Making mistakes is how we learn.
- We have to reprioritize and change our perspective to give ourselves the space to do things efficiently.
- Repetitive mistakes, experiences, and relationships are invitations to introspect and determine if there is an unconscious pattern operating.
- It’s a matter of spending time reflecting on these repetitive cycles.
- Sometimes repeating the same mistakes over and over may be an operator error.
- Instead of blaming somebody else, it could help to do some self-inquiry.
Spending Your Energy on the Right People
- Relationships with friends are very similar to romantic relationships.
- An asymmetrical relationship takes a lot of energy from the person who keeps giving but not taking.
- It’s a conscious choice to spend your time with the people you can depend on.
- There’s only a finite amount of time in a day. Put yourself first by paying attention to where you’re putting your energy.
- Your relationships should give you energy, not take it away from you.
Put Yourself First
- You don’t have to give up your strength to connect with others; you have to care for yourself to care for others.
- Developing a relationship with yourself is the foundation of any relationship.
- Relationships are the highest form of spiritual practice. Being fully present, investing time and energy to give and receive creates a deep reservoir for our vitality.
- Sometimes, the desire to feel loved and accepted makes us willing to lose ourselves in the process.
- But you need to put yourself first and prioritize what you need before you can give.
- Poetry is interpretive of you and your experience; there is no right or wrong answer.
- Listen to the full episode as Tessa reads the poem To Build a Swing by Hafiz!
- Your interpretation of the poem depends on where you are in your life and what you are going through.
- To Build a Swing compels you to reminisce on your childhood.
Our Childhood Dreams and How They Evolve
- We go through a process of trying to find the thread of joy and figuring out our purpose.
- Our passion doesn’t necessarily need to become our purpose.
- While it can be, it’s vital to tell the difference.
- Bringing back our inner child is important for finding fulfillment.
Taking Control Over Our Minds
- Our minds are powerful; they’re constantly creating and narrating.
- Everything we want to do is right at our fingertips, yet we create excuses not to do them.
- The things we end up doing and spending our energy on are all a matter of how we redirect our thoughts.
Connecting to Your Inner Child
- Repeatedly performing the same draining activity may be a sign of your inner child needing attention.
- Instead of doing what feeds our soul, what we often do is seek love outside of ourselves.
- Think about the ways you connect with your inner child. This inner child is the part of yourself that still needs love and nourishment.
- Listen to the full episode to hear a guided meditation that helps you connect with your inner child!
5 Powerful Quotes
[16:14] “We utilize all of those resources to share our strength. But it doesn't say that we have to give up our strength in order to connect with others, in order to be the example to help our community, to help our friends, to help the people in our lives.”
[17:03] “You have to understand the relationship that you have with yourself. You have to understand how you talk to yourself. And in that way, like you were saying, by example, you're teaching others, how to treat you, how to be around you, how to treat themselves, and how to treat others as well.”
[18:30] “We're willing to run ourselves into the ground so that we are loved, and appreciated, and feel needed. When that work needs to come within. We need to do that work ourselves.”
[23:56] “The whole idea of bringing back that inner child to have that novelty play in our lives is I think, so important. It's all those little things that accumulate to make us feel fulfilled.”
[29:17] “What we've learned how to do, whether it's like environmental or in society, is seek our love and adoration outside of ourselves, which isn't lasting; it doesn't last forever. So we forget how to fill ourselves up on our own with those things that are creative and soulful to yourself like you were talking about.”
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