Radically Loved® with Rosie Acosta

Hello Friends, I’m Rosie Acosta. I am a Meditation Teacher; Speaker and Author of You Are Radically Loved: A healing journey to self-love. I grew up in East Los Angeles during the 92 La Riots and it set me on a troubled path for many years. I didn’t grow up with mentors in my life, so I turned to reading as many books as I possibly could to learn about life’s purpose. In my journey as a First Gen-Mexican American, I found having these conversations gave me insight, support, and inspiration. So, I decided to create a place where I could share these conversations with my community. The Radically Loved Podcast was born! How do we create a radically loved life? Come have a sit with me so we can discover all things mindfulness, spirituality, self-love, and overall healthy living. Please be sure to share the episodes that you love and also leave us a review!
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Jan 19, 2022
While it is nice to think that doing our best always results in positive feedback, that is not always the case. The reality is, hard work does not save us from receiving negative criticism. Often, hearing even just one negative feedback can undermine all the recognition and compliments we’ve received. But as with other things, balance is key to handling criticism. Ultimately, it is up to us whether to use it as a force to motivate us or bring us down.
In this episode, Rosie and Tessa talk about dealing with negative comments. They explain the impact of negative feedback and the reasons we feed off of it. They also discuss the importance of learning to weigh praises and criticisms. Furthermore, Rosie and Tessa share ways to handle negative feedback, and Rosie concludes the podcast with a short practice on reframing negativity!

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Episode Highlights
On Conspiracies
●People often go into the well of misinformation because they get addicted to the serotonin of discovery.
●You become vulnerable to conspiracy theories when you’re seeking answers.
●It all comes down to the problem of discerning the truth.
●Being open creates more space for a bigger circle than being single-minded.
The Impact of Negative Feedback
●Rosie recorded new yoga classes for an online platform. She went onto the platform to make sure she wouldn’t be repeating her existing class’s sequences.
●She discovered people’s feedback when she clicked on the previous class she taught on the platform.
●Most of the comments were good, but two said that the class wasn’t for them.
●Rosie ended up going through her past classes to look for negative comments, even when most of the feedback was positive.
Weighing Both Praises and Criticisms
●Rosie couldn’t focus on the positive comments. All she could think of was the need to get people’s approval.
●It’s not your problem if somebody doesn’t like you. Don’t let people live rent-free in your life.
●Rosie let the negative comments live in her being for a week.
●Weigh your praise as much as you weigh your criticism.
Blocking People on Social Media
●Rosie has experienced blocking or responding to people on social media because of inappropriate attacks.
●It’s hard to grapple with the feeling that somebody can intentionally say something to hurt you under social media’s veil.
Going Down the Rabbit Hole of Negative Comments
●Searching for negativity is an instinctual self-preservation tool we have evolved over the years to keep us safe.
●It may also root from fear of rejection in terms of evolutionary survival.
●Knowing that the person is hurting you from their pain doesn't make their comments feel good.
●Weighing the positive and negative comments sometimes requires going down the rabbit hole.
●Tim Ferriss suggests putting positive feedback in a special box or folder to look at when you’re feeling down.
3 Ways to Handle Negative Feedback
●Ask clarifying questions instead of giving personal attacks any attention or energy.
●Allow yourself to process the emotions it brings up.
●Determine whether it’s constructive or destructive. Constructive is expansive; destructive is constricting.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
●EMDR is one of the most effective therapies for people dealing with trauma.
●It’s a form of psychotherapy where the person gets asked to recall a distressing image, and then the therapist directs the patient in a type of bilateral stimulation.
●EMDR stimulations give disembodied memories a place to go. It reconnects all the synapses in the brain.
●Negative triggers can take us into the negative cycle and pathology of the mind.
Putting Things in a Box
●Rosie’s therapist taught her to put things in a box energetically or mentally.
●You can either write negative comments and burn them, or do the opposite and create a positive comment box.
●You can ask five friends to say their five favorite things about you.
●Reading positive comments counteracts the negative spin we sometimes put ourselves in.
How to Practice EMDR
●EMDR is like Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping. It’s something you can do by yourself.
●It’s similar to stretching the opposite leg and opposite arm when doing yoga posture on all fours.
●The process causes a neurological reset. It balances the left and right hemispheres of the brain.
●A trigger takes you into a visceral cellular memory reaction. The EMDR creates a new pathway where positive feelings get attached to the trigger.
●The process is like connecting dots. It happens gradually in a non-linear way instead of going from 0 to 100.
Being a Student and a Teacher
●Rosie is always looking for new ways of reframing old thought patterns and practicing self-inquiry.
●She loves learning and being a student. She also loves teaching the things she has learned.
●Learning something requires reading about it; knowing something requires writing about it. But mastering something requires teaching it.
Reframing Negativity
●Pratipaksha Bhavana: “May we continue to reframe negativity and choose responses that are helpful and uplifting.”
●Tune in to the full episode for a short practice on reframing negativity!
5 Powerful Quotes
[12:00]: “To go back to the human experience of what's that knee-jerk reaction that has this down the rabbit hole of looking for the out of the hundreds of positive comments that we get, what has us down the rabbit hole of searching out the negative one. And I think it's a very instinctual self-preservation tool that we have evolved with over the years to keep us safe.

[14:07]: “When I get positive feedback — this is something I heard Tim Ferriss suggest — if it's like a physical piece of paper or card somebody wrote you, [put] it in a special drawer or box or folder so that you can look at it when you're feeling down and you need that little extra boost, that reminder that yeah, you're valued.

[15:52]: (On negative criticisms): [Do] not give it the energy, just let it live on its own. Eventually, it'll die.

[18:40]: “Constructive is expansive, and destructive is constricting.”

[21:57]: “My therapist taught me to put things in a box. So you put it in the box energetically or mentally — however you want to do it — or you want to write down the negative comments, [...] you want to burn them up, go for it.
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Jan 14, 2022
Fear is a natural and biological response to stressful events. Contrary to popular notion, feeling afraid can be very helpful. It can protect us from danger and ensure our survival. However, we sometimes fall into the rabbit hole of fixating on our unhealthy fears. It reels us into a dark space and hinders us from seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

In this episode, Katie Silcox talks about the relevance of fear in our lives and its potential to help us with our growth. She also discusses our obsession with the trauma vortex and how it hinders us from moving into the healing vortex, where safety and security are present. Finally, she shares her thoughts about toxic positivity and how it differs from authentic love and light.
If you are on a spiritual journey to eliminate fear and trauma in your life, this episode is for you!

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Episode Highlights
The Importance of Fear
●There is no concept of good or bad in the tantric cosmology of reality. There are only useful and unuseful ways toward our goals.
●We define our goals in life.
●Not all fears are unhealthy. Fear is a part of our physiology and has a purpose.
●Since yoga and meditation did not get to the roots of her fears, Katie spent five years understanding how the nervous system functions and unraveling trauma from it.
The Trauma and Healing Vortex
●The trauma vortex reels you into a dark space when you are about to see the light.
●The healing vortex allows us to feel safe and at ease. It happens when the body receives information through the 16 proprioceptive senses.
●Mass media keeps us in the trauma vortex. It shuts down our prefrontal cortex, preventing us from taking in new information.
●Feed yourself information that conveys truth.
Fear Porn
●Having an unhealthy relationship with our phones leads us to live in a state of fear.
●We sometimes try to outdo the tragic situation of another person. Rosie calls this “tragedy porn.”
●Mass media made us desensitized and overstimulated in all facets of our lives.
Satiate Your Ancestors
●Satiate yourself by satiating your ancestors.
●Our circumstances are not unique to us. It’s a seven-generation experience that wasn't realized. Listen to the full episode to hear how this was confirmed by a mice experiment!
●We live in a time of abundance, yet we still carry the original trauma of our ancestors.
●Focusing on what’s wrong around us is embedded deeper into our neurophysiology, and it rewires our ancient trauma.
●We are hyper-aware of society’s problems because of mass media. But it has also hyperpolarized us to the point where we’re afraid of speaking.
●Othering is the first sign that you entered the trauma vortex. It refers to separating yourself from others.
●Listen and sit down with people to end this destructive practice.
●The moment we commit othering, we start to build walls between ourselves and others.
Toxic Positivity
●We focus on trauma rather than healing. This frame of mind was helpful to our ancestors in the wild, but it doesn’t help us now.
●Real love and light can hold an infinite amount of trauma. They will not repress negative emotions, but they will not linger long enough into them.
●Some lash out at others or deny feeling the pain during adversities. Listen to the episode to hear how Katie compares these feelings to the eastern and western dragon!
●Feel your emotions, and if it gets scary, look for a medium.
●Many are not suffering from toxic positivity, but are going through an unhealthy recapitalization of an old, limited version of themselves.
Digesting Your Emotional Experience
●Denying ourselves of fragility and emotions can cause disease and sickness.
●Digesting your emotions also involves its elimination.
●Avoiding information and people that disturb your mind helps prevent disease.
●People are meant to be together, not in isolation.
Creating Boundaries on Mass Media
●We easily get scared of things that disturb our minds.
●Decide what you want your life to be.
●If you’re a lightworker, take care of what you put into your body. Look after your physical, mental, and emotional being.
●Protect the light you’ve been cultivating.
Katie Feeling Radically Loved
●Katie feels radically loved when she feels at ease and when she could surrender to not figuring it all out.
●When you let go of your egoic willpower and let the higher matrix of support come in, you will feel loved.
●Religious people think about hell, but spiritual people have been through it.
●Love is present when you let go of your ego and step closer to God.
5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode
[04:06] “There's no good or bad in the tantric cosmology of reality. There's just what's useful and what's not useful to get you towards your goal.”
[13:17] “[Y]ou begin to realize that we think that we are living these individual egoic experiences, especially in the Western psychology. But what we're actually experiencing is seven generations of experience that hasn't been able to digest itself.”
[22:16] “Real love and light can hold infinite amounts of trauma.”
[23:02] “What we're being invited to do is hold this loving presence around whatever is arising within the chaotic wild feminine of the experience.”
[37:56] “Religious people think about hell, spiritual people have been through it. When you've been through it and come out the other side and felt that love because of maybe how low you went. To be back in that state requires one thing and that is: I'm going to take one step to God.”
About Katie
Katie Silcox is a renowned author, teacher, and mentor to women. She wrote the New York Times bestseller, Healthy, Happy, Sexy - Ayurveda Wisdom for Modern Women, that teaches spiritual and practical approaches to physical, mental, and spiritual health.
She is also the founder of The Shakti School. It is an online platform for women to explore their spirituality and holistic health.
Apart from being a spirituality advocate, Katie is also a popular figure in the yoga community. Common Ground magazine named her one of San Francisco’s Best Yoga Teachers in 2009. Origin magazine wrote in 2014 that she is one of 70 Yogis Changing the World. By 2015, Spirituality and Health magazine mentioned Katie as part of the 100 Trailblazers in Yoga and Ayurveda.

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Jan 12, 2022
Getting caught up in negative situations often blind our emotions and judgment. It detaches us from our rhythm and leads us deeper into a never-ending rabbit hole. The fall eventually isolates us from the spiritual realm. While reconnecting with our spirit may seem impossible, getting back on track begins with something as easy as quieting your mind. Once you regain your presence, you can invite the spirit in and awaken your inner master.
In this episode, best-selling author Agapi Stassinopoulos gives a sneak peek of her latest book, Speaking With Spirit. Agapi discusses her experience of writing the book amid the pandemic and how it called her to practice. She also reveals how we can find our rhythm and invite our spirit in. Finally, Agapi guides us in seeking our inner master and maximizing our inherent potential.

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Episode Highlights
Speaking With Spirit
●Agapi’s new book is called Speaking With Spirit: 52 Prayers to Guide, Inspire, and Uplift You. She wrote the book during the pandemic.
●As a person who thrives in heart, joy, and connection, living in lockdown was like being in exile for Agapi.
●Prayer and the aliveness of connecting with spirit is not a theory. We get called in to practice all the time, not just on special occasions.
●Tune in to the episode to hear excerpts of some affirmative quotes from her book!
●The spirit will feel like our next breath if we quiet the mind and come into presence.
Finding Your Rhythm
●Agapi’s number one spiritual teacher was her mother.
●Her mother had a rhythm of eternity; nothing could rush her. She never allowed herself to get caught up in other people's rhythms.
●Her sister is an AAA type who achieves and simultaneously does many things.
●Agapi is a lover and entertainer who likes creating connections with other people.
●The world’s demands keep us off our rhythm and vibration. Disconnecting from worldly pressure takes incredible courage.
Getting to the Spirit
●Agapi wrote the book to give people permission to acknowledge that they are loved exactly as they are.
●We don’t need to prove our values to other people and to our spirit.
●You need to stop, ask, and listen to get to the spirit.
●Listen to the full episode to hear a hilarious story about a monk who wanted to serve God!
On Betraying the Moments
●We end up going to bed empty and depleted when we betray the moments.
●We often turn to our phones to get some simulation. What we should do instead is turn them off and do something we love to cheer us up.
●Reading books and listening to her favorite pop music are some of Agapi's preferred uplifting activities.
How to Come into the Awakened Moment
●Pick up a pen and something to write on. Then, write down your prayers.
●Drafting your prayers steers us into a vulnerable moment. Reciting devotion wires the brain into a mindset that you’re not alone.
●The creation of our physical bodies remains unknown. The mystery entitles us to refer to ourselves as the miracle of life
●It requires a certain trust to open up to your miraculousness. Faith requires you to do something without knowing what’s ahead.
Finding Comfort and Grace in the Loss of a Loved One
●Listen to the episode to hear Rosie’s heartfelt story about how the book’s prayer consoled her after her father’s heart attack!
●Sometimes, there are no words to say to someone going through grief or loss. Give them love, compassion, and a safe space to cry.
●Rosie gained the courage and comfort she needed to get through it by reading a passage from the book.
●The uncertainty of a life-and-death situation calls for the spirit to come in and hold our hands.
●The more we learn to ask, receive, and recognize that we’re not alone, the more we can pass it on.
Inviting the Spirit In
●For Agapi, not having the connection she needed while writing the book was like cutting off her lifeforce.
●She found the lifeforce back inside. She had to comfort herself and bring little things to make her day better.
●When writing the book, she sought direction, guidance, and support from within.
●Agapi found the gift as she proceeded with new chapters and prayers.
●She wants to pass on the gift while also practicing it herself.
Our Inner Master
●Agapi sometimes can’t believe that she wrote her book whenever she reads it.
●Our inner master is the part of us that knows how to do things.
●The masterful part of ourselves is compassionate, strong, calm, and still. It’s the “I am”, also known as the God within.
●The more we practice our masterful selves, the more it rises. Then, we have to bring it to others.
Rekindle Your Enthusiasm Prayer
●Every day, as soon as we wake up, it is important that we renew ourselves.
●Tune in to the full podcast to listen as Agapi guides us through a short prayer!
●Affirmation: “God is my partner.”
●Stay resilient. Open up, and trust your spirit.
●Write down your prayers, wants, and things you want to let go of. Let the spirit speak to you.
Spiritual Guidance
●Agapi shares quick fixes for spiritual guidance in the book.
●Call the spirit forward in the middle of bad news or anything happening. Don’t delay it.
●The more each of us calls the spirit forward, the more we activate it — the more it grows.
Be Part of the Family
●Her guided meditations will be published on Audible.
●Unbinding The Heart, her third book, reveals the beginning of her spiritual journey.
●Agapi reminds us that the Radically Love family is here for all of us.
●Lastly, she encourages us to join and indulge in family fun.

5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode
[3:53] “...and did you get what you wanted from this life? Even so, I did. And what did you want? To call myself beloved; to feel myself beloved on the Earth”

[9:49] “I wrote this book because I wanted to give people permission to open up the gate to say, ‘You know you are loved exactly as you are. You don't have to prove to us your value. You don't have to prove to your spirit.”

[19:55] “When you're going through grief or loss, I relate and there are no words to say to someone. Give them love and compassion, and a safe space for them to cry.”

[22:14] “The more we learn to ask and receive, and the more we learn that we're not alone, the more we can pass that on.”

[25:28] “There is always this part of us that is that knows how to do things, and I call it like the inner master.”
About Agapi
Agapi Stassinopoulos is a best-selling author and speaker who sparks inspiration in audiences around the world. Her books Gods and Goddesses in Love and Conversations with the Goddesses got turned into PBS specials. Currently, Agapi conducts workshops for Thrive Global to help change the way people work and live. She has also spoken and conducted meditations at companies like L’Oreal, Women’s Health Magazine, IBM Watson, Google, and Nike, among others
Her book Wake Up to the Joy of You inspires readers to let go of what doesn’t work and create the lives they want. Her new book Speaking with Spirit: 52 Prayers to Guide, Inspire, and Uplift You will be released on January 11, 2022.
If you wish to connect with Agapi, you may check out her website, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. You may also send her an email at
Jan 5, 2022
Falling in love is undoubtedly one of the best feelings in the world. It makes our heart flutter and the butterflies in our stomachs dance in joy. No matter the age, love is something we all feel, may it be fleeting or long-term. But not all the people we love feel the same way for us and vice versa. Feelings don't always get reciprocated no matter how much we work on them. In this case, what is the proper response for the person on the receiving end of a love confession?
In this episode, Rosie and Tessa talk about the overarching theme of love. They answer a question from a listener on how to respond to someone they don't feel the same way romantically. Furthermore, they talked about when to say "I love you." They highlight the importance of setting boundaries in avoiding asymmetrical relationships. Tessa then shares the details of her love story at the end of the podcast!

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Episode Highlights
Early New Year Greeting
●All the episodes for this season are pre-recorded.
●Rosie’s book will be on sale starting the 22nd of January 2022.
To Radically Loved’s Listeners
●2022 will be your year.
●Rosie reads every single listener email that comes into Radically Loved’s email. She’s grateful for the community’s continued support.
●Rosie started doing the podcast on her house’s dining table using an H4 Zoom recorder and headphones. She used to do interviews over the phone.
●The podcast has come a long way from its beginning in 2016.
Tessa and Rosie’s Relationship
●Tessa and Rosie have known each other since 2015. Tessa was Rosie’s student.
●Tessa and Kristina Coco are the two people certified to teach Rosie’s 200-hour level teacher training.
On Books and Manifestation
●Tessa can’t wait to get her hands on Rosie’s book.
●Talking about books always induces a cozy atmosphere.
●Rosie will be recording her audiobook in the second week of January.
●Writing a book seemed only a far-fetched dream for Rosie before. She will be recording an audiobook exactly ten years from that little seedling of thought.
●Manifestation works, and dreams do come true.
You Can Do Anything
●We often look at other people who have something we want with a lens of curiosity and willingness to learn.
●If others have done it, you can do it too.
●This conversation stemmed from Rosie’s podcast interview with Sheri Salata.
●Tessa always thinks back to the four locks and keys in Yoga Sutra when talking about this topic.
●Comparison can either be a source of inspiration or something that can stop us in our tracks.
How Soon is Too Soon to Say “I Love You”
●The main topic for this episode is the overarching theme of falling in love
●A question from a listener: How do you respond to someone wholeheartedly saying they love you when you don’t feel the same way romantically?
●OkCupid surveyed 6000 people on the question of how soon is too soon to say "I love you."
●62% think you should say it as soon as you feel it. 22% say you should wait several months, while 3% say you should wait at least a year.
●The typical range is about three months.
How to Respond to a Confession When You Don’t Feel the Same Way
●Tessa has never had the situation happen to her. She thinks it’s best to approach it like a compliment and say thank you.
●Rosie has experienced this situation before. A friend confessed to her wanting to be in a romantic relationship, but she didn't feel the same way.
●That friend tried to push the idea to Rosie, even with Torry in the picture. She turned him down on several occasions and created space between them.
●A spiritual counselor asked Rosie if she was keeping that friend as a way of ego feeding.
●Rosie suggests being honest and creating a clear boundary.
Creating an Asymmetrical Relationship
●It’s hard to maintain a deep friendship with someone in love with you.
●It’s a selfish endeavor not to create boundaries with someone you don’t feel the same way romantically. It creates an asymmetrical relationship.
●An asymmetrical friendship is when only one person gets the buck of energy fill.
How to Come from a Place of Honesty and Kindness
●Laying down romantic feelings and the vulnerability that comes with it is a sensitive subject.
●It’s not easy to turn someone down in a way that remains kind and loving.
●Tessa: Have the other person clarify what they mean by their "I love you." Acknowledge it, give appreciation, and explain you don't feel the same kind of love.
●Rosie is more of the type to close the door immediately. She doesn't want to lead anybody on.
Tessa’s Puppy Love Experience
●Tessa was in a long-term monogamous relationship for six years when she was 16.
●Her parents were worried about it and had a serious talk with her. Tune in to the full episode to hear more about her parents' reaction to her puppy love.
Tessa’s Love Story
●Tessa and her current partner Jorge have been together for over a decade. They met in college in Oregon.
●Tessa swooned over aura when he served her and her friend at the restaurant he worked at. He was from Mexico and still had a thick accent when they first met.
●They ended up meeting on campus again and started seeing each other more often and going Salsa dancing together. But they were with other people at the time.
●Tessa found out he was living with his girlfriend’s parents at the time. They were his host family as an exchange student, so Tessa didn’t want to compromise.
●Jorge would say Tessa was just his English tutor, but his actions said otherwise. They eventually got together after the other people in the picture fell away.
Love in a Long-Term Adult Relationship
●Tessa said they said "I love you" within the three to the six-month mark of their relationship.
●Energy and excitement always fill Tessa every time she retells their love story.
●Tessa realized over the years that she chose a good partner. They have had ups and downs, but she couldn’t pick a better partner.
●Rosie agrees that Tessa and Jorge complement each other very well.
●Meanwhile, Rosie shares her love story at length in her book. She says she must have done something right in the past life to deserve Torry.
Powerful Quotes
“I would do my best to say something along the lines of, I care a lot about you. You mean a lot to me. I don't feel ready to say ‘I love you’ yet, at least not in that the way that I think you mean it.”
“I think there's a difference here. And this is very much under the umbrella of falling in love the difference between being an adult relationship and puppy love.”
“If you're not corresponding, it's almost once the relationship crosses that threshold unless there are very, very clear boundaries, it's kind of hard to go back. And then at that point, subconsciously, the mind is just wanting to keep that person around, to sort of feed that part of you that likes that attention.”
Jan 4, 2022
Life can often have a lot of detours, ups, downs, and twists around. It's easy to get lost or stranded in one place instead of finding out where the path can lead. Many things can get in the way of finding meaning. Sometimes the roadblocks aren't external — you might be looking in the wrong place or misunderstanding what's best for you. However, as your life progresses, you'll understand that the pitfalls in your life help you grow.
In this episode, Sheri Salata joins us to talk about her journey and share the lessons she has learned along the way. The stories that led to her writing a book and the experiences she garnered throughout her life are words of wisdom that you don't want to miss. Finally, Sheri shares her advice on making critical decisions and reaching your dreams. If you've ever felt lost or stuck, tune in and embark on the path toward a positive transformation.
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1.Learn to manage your fear of decision-making while cultivating the courage and motivation to keep finding meaning in what you do.
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3.Listen and discover what you can achieve by sharing your stories and listening to others.
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●The Beautiful No: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence, and Transformation by Sheri Salata
●The Oprah Winfrey Show
●We Need to Talk About Shame, a TED Talk by Brené Brown
●Sheri’s 12-week course: Write Your Story | Transform Your Life
●The Support System, a membership group with Sheri
●More about the retreats organized by Sheri
●Connect with Sheri on her website and subscribe!
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Episode Highlights
Sheri’s Secret Sauce
●Sheri has a knack for gathering a group of people to do things as a group. She also mentions that she could herd kittens.
●When she was younger, she wasn’t picky about her jobs and took them one after another. She was determined to find a job that could provide stability for her retirement.
●Sheri wasn’t finding meaning in what she did, wasting her devotion on jobs bereft of purpose to her.
●Although she felt miserable after trying out multiple jobs, she still persevered. She later found her purpose in her life and applied that to her job search.
The Time to Try New Things
●The feeling that you are sacrificing your life for a paycheck could indirectly hint that you should try finding meaning elsewhere.
●When Sheri became an entrepreneur at 56, she first experienced what it felt like to enjoy a job.
●Another lesson Sheri taught us was to take risks. Searching for your true passion is a process of trial and error.
●She advises others to try entrepreneurship. Alternatively, work for a startup company to observe the empowerment that comes with being an entrepreneur.
Making the Right Decision
●There are different kinds of decisions in life. A governing decision is the most powerful decision that sets a framework for your life.
●Sheri urges us to be decisive. It doesn't need to be a good decision at that moment — the mistakes of today help your judgment tomorrow.
●When you’re deciding, ask yourself whether you would feel good about it. If it feels good, you are encouraged to proceed. You can always change course later.
●Your slippery character is the part of you that stops change. The fear of an unknown future prevents you from finding meaning elsewhere.
●Talk to your slippery character. Though it may simply want to protect you, help yourself understand that you can make a positive change in your life.
Matching Energies
●To reach a dream, match the good feeling. Manage your mood and thoughts to approach the actions positively instead of negatively.
●What often gets in the way is starting to think of the ways it's going to go wrong. Fear shifts your energy from matching the dream to repelling it.
Stopping Comparisons
●Sometimes you might feel inferior when comparing yourself with others.
●Look at your comparisons as a treasure hunt. Learn from others that you like and learn to apply their methods in your pursuit of success.
●Match your positive and encouraging energy with your dreams and manifest them through practice.
●Be more conscious of what you are practicing. Take control and focus on good practices that can help you.
Finding Meaning In Her Work
●Sheri was 35 years old when she started working at the Oprah Winfrey Show in an entry-level work position.
●She began finding meaning in her job as she took notes on all the spiritual experts, teachers, and leaders she met.
●That job was where Sheri found the quantum. She started cultivating a spiritual life and connected with the universe.
●Even until now, she continues to look for portals of opportunity. She evaluates her drawbacks and looks for ways to improve and become a better person.
●When Sheri reflects on her constructive transformations and retains her energy, she rises and grows. Transformational conversations pushed her into finding meaning.
Sharing Stories
●There is an empowering element in taking ownership of your own experiences and genuinely sharing them.
●During her book tour, Sheri realized that sharing her stories helped in her healing process.
●Sheri noticed that her audience and readers shared their stories as well. Essentially, she believed that the exchange helped them make amends with their inner wounds.
●The overall experience helped her audience recognize their potential and the abundant possibilities they could explore.
●Every story has an impact on its respective readers. We can find good value and lessons in any story.
Sheri’s Favorite Things to Do
●Last January, she launched a course called "Write Your Story, Transform Your Life," where she spends weeks of deep transformation with others.
●Sheri enjoys inviting people to her masterclasses and workshops organized by her private membership group called "The Support System."
●A vacation to Italy is what she began doing to reward herself.
●Whenever she does her favorite things, she notices herself blossoming into a better person. Ultimately, she has found ease in her current life.
Desired Takeaways for Sheri’s Book Tours
●Sheri hopes that she conveys as much learning as possible from her experiences, hoping it would inspire her audience to seek positive change.
●She also hopes she delivers her message and experience to her audience properly.
●After each event, she thinks about what she got from it and what she gave back.
How Sheri Experiences Radical Love
●Over the last three or four years, Sheri learned what it truly means to love herself.
●Being kind to and counting on herself forges another level of self-love that only she could give. No one in the world will love her more than she loves herself.
●Sheri loves animals and desires to help rescue animals and farm sanctuaries. It would be better if she were to take care of a huge group of rescued animals.
●She states that we are in a co-beneficial relationship with other sentient beings on Earth. This is why she chooses to be a shepherd who cares for them.
5 Powerful Quotes
[6:56] “Lean into happy, lean into what feels good. Quit trying to push the boulder up the hill and make the wrong relationships work, the wrong jobs work.”
[14:40] “We're just in decision paralysis. Anytime you feel yourself in that place, take that really seriously, because it means you are delaying a magnificent future. You're delaying change, good change.”
[19:34] “I needed to look at [comparison] as a little treasure hunt where I literally am out in the world going, ‘I want some of that.’ so I could stop comparing myself. Comparison is the death of dreams.”
[27:52] “I'm willing to own my experiences, and I share them vulnerably because, first of all, just speaking those words, and those stories heal me.”

About the Guest
Sheri Salata authored the award-winning book, The Beautiful No: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence and Transformation. Named Amazon Editor's Choice Best Memoir, it tells the story of her journey from the bottom to the peak of a career she truly loves and enjoys. She hopes that her book will inspire thousands of readers to be unafraid to dream bigger and work towards it.
Recognized for her role and contributions in business, entertainment, and media, she continues to encourage others as an author, speaker, producer, and founder of inspirational groups and practices. Sheri organizes retreats and has founded a membership platform called The Support System for women. She has also shared the power of writing through her 12-week course, Write Your Story | Transform Your Life.
Take a peek at her book The Beautiful No: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence and Transformation. Learn more and connect with Sheri through her website.
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Jan 1, 2022
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